Cancelled Travel Backlash

[Anonymous]

I would not feel bad in the least. It's pointless travelling at the moment. Large gatherings are being cancelled everywhere. Flights are being disrupted and cancelled.

Just ignore the pettiness. Your sister is being selfish.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Update for the curious. I’ve called sister maybe a total of three times - all screened. Also sent two texts. Both ignored. Looks like event is being rescheduled as a five day vacation at a resort 5 hours from here. I was debating what to do. I did get an automatic email when the updated the original evite, so I suppose I was technically invited. However, I told my mother that as much as I do not want to worsen any drama, if I was still being actually ignored, i didn’t see how I could attend. Plus, my husband is at the point where he said he wasn’t going to a resort, and I tend to agree. However, I have learned my lesson. Not saying a word until resort cancellation deadline (at which point I’d be out $3000 if I didn’t cancel)

I am so not a drama llama. I don’t think I’ve ever had someone “not speaking to me” my entire life, let alone the 10 days or so this has been going on. I have zero interest in having any conversation with my sister that isn’t essentially “we kind of lost our minds because we were so Invested In this event”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The grandparents played it better because they know your sister is a terrible person. Hopefully you’ll patch it up, since the event was cancelled by Israel, not you, and it might percolate in your sister’s brain that you were right all along,

Your parents should sweet talk her into not resenting you, BTW. That’s their job.

100% disagree. It is NOT your parents job to manage or smooth over your relationships with other adults. That is an indication of terrible boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes space is best for awhile and just give things a rest.

[Anonymous]

I got into a not speaking conflict with my brother awhile back. The details of the conflict are irrelevant now. I kept trying to reach out to him, just to avoid the rift between us lasting long, but he dug in. So we didn't talk for about a year.

Eventually he responded to an attempt by me to mend the rift and we moved on past it, without ever bringing it up again I might add.

I am so glad it worked out that way because he died suddenly a few years later at age 50 and I am extremely thankful we had a close and friendly relationship the last few years of his life.

[Anonymous]

Time will heal this Op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The grandparents played it better because they know your sister is a terrible person. Hopefully you’ll patch it up, since the event was cancelled by Israel, not you, and it might percolate in your sister’s brain that you were right all along,

Your parents should sweet talk her into not resenting you, BTW. That’s their job.

100% disagree. It is NOT your parents job to manage or smooth over your relationships with other adults. That is an indication of terrible boundaries.

OP here. I totally agree. My mom is really upset about this, which I feel badly about, but I told her to please not discuss it with sister any more.

[Anonymous]

So the grandparents never admitted that their chatter about “definitely” not going were what prompted (at least in part) your decision? Horribly rude of them to throw you under the bus. I’d be upset with THEM and totally rat them out to your sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The grandparents played it better because they know your sister is a terrible person. Hopefully you’ll patch it up, since the event was cancelled by Israel, not you, and it might percolate in your sister’s brain that you were right all along,

Your parents should sweet talk her into not resenting you, BTW. That’s their job.

100% disagree. It is NOT your parents job to manage or smooth over your relationships with other adults. That is an indication of terrible boundaries.

I agree to a point, but it does kind of suck that OP’s parents and grandparents are all hiding the fact that they were also going to cancel, making OP look like the only “bad guy.”

[Anonymous]

OP I think your sister is being a jerk.

Is she always like this?

If not, just let all the dust settle and maybe reach out. She's stressed, anxious, angry, and found you as a target. Unfair, but she deserves a pass if she's normally a good person, and apologizes to you later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The grandparents played it better because they know your sister is a terrible person. Hopefully you’ll patch it up, since the event was cancelled by Israel, not you, and it might percolate in your sister’s brain that you were right all along,

Your parents should sweet talk her into not resenting you, BTW. That’s their job.

100% disagree. It is NOT your parents job to manage or smooth over your relationships with other adults. That is an indication of terrible boundaries.

I agree to a point, but it does kind of suck that OP’s parents and grandparents are all hiding the fact that they were also going to cancel, making OP look like the only “bad guy.”

Yep, the parents also have dysfunctional communication and conflict patterns.

[Anonymous]

At least the Israel closure shows your sister you were 'right' to cancel. Don't worry about it. i get why you're annoyed.

If she says anything about it just say the grandparents COULDN'T have gone, risk was too high, which you recognized straight way - to keep the peace should probably say nothing though I suppose!

[Anonymous]

Your sister is being stupid. I am sorry.

Thank God countries are putting restrictions in place or otherwise people like your sister would end up killing people with their Careless ways.

My friend was just told she wil die if she gets it.

This kills people. Ffs

[Anonymous]

OP here. I agree. (I’m actually an ICU physicia n)

[Anonymous]

(Who just got called to an almost emergency and hit the send button too soon)

But no, I agree. The latest situation seems even more bizarre as I don’t think a resort event in 3 weeks (also with elderly grandparents) is a good idea at all.