Lactivists are just mean girls all grown up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There. I said it.

Not all of them, of course. But the ones who insult and roll their eyes and formula shame are just hiding behind their profession as a means to be, well, mean. It’s the only power they have in life.

So the next time one of these Regina Georges makes you feel like a bad mom for wanting to do something other than exclusive breastfeeding, remember that she’s using the couple silly certifications she got to try and bring you down. And don’t fall for it.

What exactly are you referring to?

OP hates women who breastfeed.

It’s that simple.

I did EBF with all my kids and I agree with OP.

[Anonymous]

Agreed, breastfeeding is overrated. Some women turn it into a competition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

You are a horrible person

Agree. Too bad her kids aren't getting kindness along with all that breast milk.

-- Nursed each kid well past two years.

Why? Because I am supposed to care when educated women decide not to breastfeed? I pumped while working full time. For two years. It was hard. I made a decision that was best for my kid. Others can make decisions that they think is best for their kid. It is not my job to raise their children. I have the same attitude for anti vaxxers. They can choose to not get their kid the flu vaccine.

I’ve never used this term on DCUM, but you are a f***ing moron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agreed, breastfeeding is overrated. Some women turn it into a competition.

But most of us don’t. It’s super time consuming and I genuinely don’t care how you or what you feed your child. We’re all tired, busy, and healing from having a baby. The other stuff really doesn’t matter. It’s perfectly ok to ignore folks if they do get vocal.


“ thats ok for you, it’s not for me” super useful mindset.

[Anonymous]

Calling someone a lactivist is fairly mean girl as well. Get real, babe.

[Anonymous]

Everyone needs to stop with the "formula is 100% just as good as breast milk" stuff. It's not.

Have you ever heard of a mom anywhere in the world with a bottle of breastmilk in front of her who says, "I'm not going to give that to my baby, I'm going to go make some formula instead." ??

Have you ever heard of a mom anywhere in the world with two bottles in front of her, breastmilk and formula, and says, "I'll choose the formula today. Why not. The baby can have some variety. After all, formula is just as good as breastmilk."

Have you ever heard of a NICU or hospital anywhere in the world with a bottle of breastmilk from the baby's mom and decides not to give it because, "well the baby can just get some variety and formula is 100% just as good"???

Would any mom or medical professional ever reject the mom's breastmilk (baring some medical contraindications, obviously) in favor of formula?

Would any hospital anywhere not do whatever they knew how to do (which admittedly varies wildly) to help the mom produce milk for a new baby or especially a baby in the NICU who needs all the help they can get?

No, of course not. That's because formula is NOT as good as breastmilk. End of story.

I don't know what you're all arguing about. What are all the insults for? There's no need to make anyone feel bad for their choices. There are plenty of very "valid" reasons why breastfeeding doesn't work for a woman or a family - if she's sick, or doesn't produce enough, or is taking medications, has health issues, etc etc.

But please, let's just stop with the "formula is just as good", because it's NOT. So the PP earlier on the thread who said something like "formula isn't the best thing for the baby but if it works for their family better then I don't care" is right. Sorry if you don't like hearing it, but it's true. Let's just accept facts and move on. You can still be an amazing mom. And maybe you could even be a better mom overall than someone who breastfeeds. Especially if breastfeeding is difficult. But the best food for a baby, especially a new baby, is the mom's breastmilk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone needs to stop with the "formula is 100% just as good as breast milk" stuff. It's not.

Have you ever heard of a mom anywhere in the world with a bottle of breastmilk in front of her who says, "I'm not going to give that to my baby, I'm going to go make some formula instead." ??

Have you ever heard of a mom anywhere in the world with two bottles in front of her, breastmilk and formula, and says, "I'll choose the formula today. Why not. The baby can have some variety. After all, formula is just as good as breastmilk."

Have you ever heard of a NICU or hospital anywhere in the world with a bottle of breastmilk from the baby's mom and decides not to give it because, "well the baby can just get some variety and formula is 100% just as good"???

Would any mom or medical professional ever reject the mom's breastmilk (baring some medical contraindications, obviously) in favor of formula?

Would any hospital anywhere not do whatever they knew how to do (which admittedly varies wildly) to help the mom produce milk for a new baby or especially a baby in the NICU who needs all the help they can get?

No, of course not. That's because formula is NOT as good as breastmilk. End of story.

I don't know what you're all arguing about. What are all the insults for? There's no need to make anyone feel bad for their choices. There are plenty of very "valid" reasons why breastfeeding doesn't work for a woman or a family - if she's sick, or doesn't produce enough, or is taking medications, has health issues, etc etc.

But please, let's just stop with the "formula is just as good", because it's NOT. So the PP earlier on the thread who said something like "formula isn't the best thing for the baby but if it works for their family better then I don't care" is right. Sorry if you don't like hearing it, but it's true. Let's just accept facts and move on. You can still be an amazing mom. And maybe you could even be a better mom overall than someone who breastfeeds. Especially if breastfeeding is difficult. But the best food for a baby, especially a new baby, is the mom's breastmilk.

You are a moron. Go read the actual science on breastfeeding (though I suspect you could not understand any of it) and then come back.

- Extended BFer

[Anonymous]

When kids are 3-4-5 or even 20 no one can tell who is BF or not so its really nothing to debate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone needs to stop with the "formula is 100% just as good as breast milk" stuff. It's not.

Have you ever heard of a mom anywhere in the world with a bottle of breastmilk in front of her who says, "I'm not going to give that to my baby, I'm going to go make some formula instead." ??

Have you ever heard of a mom anywhere in the world with two bottles in front of her, breastmilk and formula, and says, "I'll choose the formula today. Why not. The baby can have some variety. After all, formula is just as good as breastmilk."

Have you ever heard of a NICU or hospital anywhere in the world with a bottle of breastmilk from the baby's mom and decides not to give it because, "well the baby can just get some variety and formula is 100% just as good"???

Would any mom or medical professional ever reject the mom's breastmilk (baring some medical contraindications, obviously) in favor of formula?

Would any hospital anywhere not do whatever they knew how to do (which admittedly varies wildly) to help the mom produce milk for a new baby or especially a baby in the NICU who needs all the help they can get?

No, of course not. That's because formula is NOT as good as breastmilk. End of story.

I don't know what you're all arguing about. What are all the insults for? There's no need to make anyone feel bad for their choices. There are plenty of very "valid" reasons why breastfeeding doesn't work for a woman or a family - if she's sick, or doesn't produce enough, or is taking medications, has health issues, etc etc.

But please, let's just stop with the "formula is just as good", because it's NOT. So the PP earlier on the thread who said something like "formula isn't the best thing for the baby but if it works for their family better then I don't care" is right. Sorry if you don't like hearing it, but it's true. Let's just accept facts and move on. You can still be an amazing mom. And maybe you could even be a better mom overall than someone who breastfeeds. Especially if breastfeeding is difficult. But the best food for a baby, especially a new baby, is the mom's breastmilk.

You are a moron. Go read the actual science on breastfeeding (though I suspect you could not understand any of it) and then come back.

- Extended BFer

Actually, I'm a scientist. If you were also a scientist then you'd understand that "science" is still figuring out exactly what is even IN breastmilk, and why it's there. Feel free to read the studies, and look at the publication dates, if you can figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
And maybe you could even be a better mom overall than someone who breastfeeds.

annnnnd...scene.

Maybe, but probably not because you get 20,000 mom point for breast feeding?

This might kill you to hear so buckle up:
How good a mom you are has zero to do with how you feed your child. Zip. Nothing. Nada. Breastfeeding doesn’t make you a good mom, and formula feeding doesn’t make you a bad mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
And maybe you could even be a better mom overall than someone who breastfeeds.

annnnnd...scene.

Maybe, but probably not because you get 20,000 mom point for breast feeding?

This might kill you to hear so buckle up:
How good a mom you are has zero to do with how you feed your child. Zip. Nothing. Nada. Breastfeeding doesn’t make you a good mom, and formula feeding doesn’t make you a bad mom.

That’s what the PP said as well. Even if you read tone, it wasn’t there. Geez. Simmer down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When kids are 3-4-5 or even 20 no one can tell who is BF or not so its really nothing to debate.

That’s true. No one can tell if you are Macdonalds everyday or if you ate fruits and vegetables, doesn’t mean I’m going to feed my kids junk food all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone needs to stop with the "formula is 100% just as good as breast milk" stuff. It's not.

Have you ever heard of a mom anywhere in the world with a bottle of breastmilk in front of her who says, "I'm not going to give that to my baby, I'm going to go make some formula instead." ??

Have you ever heard of a mom anywhere in the world with two bottles in front of her, breastmilk and formula, and says, "I'll choose the formula today. Why not. The baby can have some variety. After all, formula is just as good as breastmilk."

Have you ever heard of a NICU or hospital anywhere in the world with a bottle of breastmilk from the baby's mom and decides not to give it because, "well the baby can just get some variety and formula is 100% just as good"???

Would any mom or medical professional ever reject the mom's breastmilk (baring some medical contraindications, obviously) in favor of formula?

Would any hospital anywhere not do whatever they knew how to do (which admittedly varies wildly) to help the mom produce milk for a new baby or especially a baby in the NICU who needs all the help they can get?

No, of course not. That's because formula is NOT as good as breastmilk. End of story.

I don't know what you're all arguing about. What are all the insults for? There's no need to make anyone feel bad for their choices. There are plenty of very "valid" reasons why breastfeeding doesn't work for a woman or a family - if she's sick, or doesn't produce enough, or is taking medications, has health issues, etc etc.

But please, let's just stop with the "formula is just as good", because it's NOT. So the PP earlier on the thread who said something like "formula isn't the best thing for the baby but if it works for their family better then I don't care" is right. Sorry if you don't like hearing it, but it's true. Let's just accept facts and move on. You can still be an amazing mom. And maybe you could even be a better mom overall than someone who breastfeeds. Especially if breastfeeding is difficult. But the best food for a baby, especially a new baby, is the mom's breastmilk.

You are a moron. Go read the actual science on breastfeeding (though I suspect you could not understand any of it) and then come back.

- Extended BFer

Actually, I'm a scientist. If you were also a scientist then you'd understand that "science" is still figuring out exactly what is even IN breastmilk, and why it's there. Feel free to read the studies, and look at the publication dates, if you can figure it out.

Man, did you just prove op’s point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Way to prove a point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

You are a horrible person

Agree. Too bad her kids aren't getting kindness along with all that breast milk.

-- Nursed each kid well past two years.

Why? Because I am supposed to care when educated women decide not to breastfeed? I pumped while working full time. For two years. It was hard. I made a decision that was best for my kid. Others can make decisions that they think is best for their kid. It is not my job to raise their children. I have the same attitude for anti vaxxers. They can choose to not get their kid the flu vaccine.

You are so NOT self aware. Sad.