Lactivists are just mean girls all grown up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

You are a horrible person

Agree. Too bad her kids aren't getting kindness along with all that breast milk.

-- Nursed each kid well past two years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Lol. Ok mean girl. Too bad you're too busy being selfishly self-righteous to give your kids something really worthwhile: a loving, kind person as their mother.

Dp I read pp's comments and no where can I see that she is being mean. She is expressing her opinion about how mothers who want to breastfeed can get support from corporations. How is this mean? You do you.

To the person complaining about the nurses: it is their job to provide information. When I had my kids in the early 2000s it was the opposite and they were pushing the formula on me, which I did not want. Do you think all those people who told me to formula feed were mean too? I just did what I wanted to do and ignored them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Breast feeding is not the be end all.

Most kids do just fine in life without being breast fed.

Shaming a mother for choosing formula is ridiculous.

Yes, her assertion absolutely makes sense.

[Anonymous]

"breast is best" is the worst thing to ever happen to new moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"breast is best" is the worst thing to ever happen to new moms.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Lol. Ok mean girl. Too bad you're too busy being selfishly self-righteous to give your kids something really worthwhile: a loving, kind person as their mother.

Dp I read pp's comments and no where can I see that she is being mean. She is expressing her opinion about how mothers who want to breastfeed can get support from corporations. How is this mean? You do you.

To the person complaining about the nurses: it is their job to provide information. When I had my kids in the early 2000s it was the opposite and they were pushing the formula on me, which I did not want. Do you think all those people who told me to formula feed were mean too? I just did what I wanted to do and ignored them!

Then you are bad at reading. PP manages to say that moms who don't breastfeed are not providing the best to their children and are selfish before meandering around the the tangent last paragraph that you have somehow taken to be the main point of her post. She's not so much mean as snide, but it's not subtle at all. It's truly strange that you missed all of that to get to the one sentence that seemed reasonable.

[Anonymous]

I just hope everyone is paying attention to what people are actually saying, and not just imagining their judgement and putting words and thoughts in their mouths. I nursed my kids longer than usual, and very frequently a mother would see me and immediately launch defensively into why she couldn’t breastfeed, or why she had to quit or whatever, without me ever saying anything, when I really and truly didn’t care how she fed her child. Many of us project our anger or frustration or disappointment onto other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Lol. Ok mean girl. Too bad you're too busy being selfishly self-righteous to give your kids something really worthwhile: a loving, kind person as their mother.

Dp I read pp's comments and no where can I see that she is being mean. She is expressing her opinion about how mothers who want to breastfeed can get support from corporations. How is this mean? You do you.

To the person complaining about the nurses: it is their job to provide information. When I had my kids in the early 2000s it was the opposite and they were pushing the formula on me, which I did not want. Do you think all those people who told me to formula feed were mean too? I just did what I wanted to do and ignored them!

Then you are bad at reading. PP manages to say that moms who don't breastfeed are not providing the best to their children and are selfish before meandering around the the tangent last paragraph that you have somehow taken to be the main point of her post. She's not so much mean as snide, but it's not subtle at all. It's truly strange that you missed all of that to get to the one sentence that seemed reasonable.

I am not this OP but I agree you made a big leap here in order to be offended. Poster said “I’m giving her the best I can give,” and you heard “moms who don’t breastfeed are not providing the best to their children and are selfish.”

Other people’s decisions are not insults to you. If I buy a red bike I am not insulting you because you chose to buy a blue bike. There is enough pain in the world — you don’t need to go looking for offense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

You are a horrible person

Agree. Too bad her kids aren't getting kindness along with all that breast milk.

-- Nursed each kid well past two years.

Why? Because I am supposed to care when educated women decide not to breastfeed? I pumped while working full time. For two years. It was hard. I made a decision that was best for my kid. Others can make decisions that they think is best for their kid. It is not my job to raise their children. I have the same attitude for anti vaxxers. They can choose to not get their kid the flu vaccine.

[Anonymous]

All things being equal, breastmilk is the best nourishment for a baby. Period.
All things being in the real world, moms sometimes need to make other decisions for their families. And we all need to understand that. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

You are a horrible person

Agree. Too bad her kids aren't getting kindness along with all that breast milk.

-- Nursed each kid well past two years.

Why? Because I am supposed to care when educated women decide not to breastfeed? I pumped while working full time. For two years. It was hard. I made a decision that was best for my kid. Others can make decisions that they think is best for their kid. It is not my job to raise their children. I have the same attitude for anti vaxxers. They can choose to not get their kid the flu vaccine.

Given your dim understanding of the science of vaccination, I have come to the conclusion that perhaps you aren't mean, just not capable of understanding complexity. I guess that's better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There. I said it.

Not all of them, of course. But the ones who insult and roll their eyes and formula shame are just hiding behind their profession as a means to be, well, mean. It’s the only power they have in life.

So the next time one of these Regina Georges makes you feel like a bad mom for wanting to do something other than exclusive breastfeeding, remember that she’s using the couple silly certifications she got to try and bring you down. And don’t fall for it.

Must be a slow day for you.

This! Ranting on an anonymous forum about moms making you feel bad is just rich.
Pro-tip: No one makes you feel anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All things being equal, breastmilk is the best nourishment for a baby. Period.
All things being in the real world, moms sometimes need to make other decisions for their families. And we all need to understand that. Period.

I think this is a good way to phrase it. Formula is never going to equal breastmilk. But it’s good enough. A damn miracle compared to what women who couldn’t nurse sometimes had to feed their babies.

Good enough is good enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Not everyone can breastfeed. That everyone can is as dumb as saying everyone has the same intelligence or any other bodily function. No. Not everyone can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Lol. Ok mean girl. Too bad you're too busy being selfishly self-righteous to give your kids something really worthwhile: a loving, kind person as their mother.

Dp I read pp's comments and no where can I see that she is being mean. She is expressing her opinion about how mothers who want to breastfeed can get support from corporations. How is this mean? You do you.

To the person complaining about the nurses: it is their job to provide information. When I had my kids in the early 2000s it was the opposite and they were pushing the formula on me, which I did not want. Do you think all those people who told me to formula feed were mean too? I just did what I wanted to do and ignored them!

Then you are bad at reading. PP manages to say that moms who don't breastfeed are not providing the best to their children and are selfish before meandering around the the tangent last paragraph that you have somehow taken to be the main point of her post. She's not so much mean as snide, but it's not subtle at all. It's truly strange that you missed all of that to get to the one sentence that seemed reasonable.

I am not this OP but I agree you made a big leap here in order to be offended. Poster said “I’m giving her the best I can give,” and you heard “moms who don’t breastfeed are not providing the best to their children and are selfish.”

Other people’s decisions are not insults to you. If I buy a red bike I am not insulting you because you chose to buy a blue bike. There is enough pain in the world — you don’t need to go looking for offense.

No, kitten. She lead off with saying it's convenient for the mom, MAY NOT BE THE BEST FOR THE KID, and then said "as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed."

That's like saying "blue bikes may be cheap, even if they're not the safest, but as a person who bought a red bike, I don't give a damn what color bike you buy for your kid. My kid gets the best bike and that's what matters, not what other kids are riding."

It's actually a leap to read around all of her underlined judgmental bulls*** to get to "she's only talking about her own choices!"

And I breastfed, btw, so your effort to turn this into personal offense is all for naught. PP is just a snide jerk.