give me tips for surviving being married to a workaholic

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Anonymous wrote:If your workaholic spouse makes a ton of money, go out and spend it on yourself and your children, if you have children.
Money CAN buy happiness...

To some extent it can buy happiness. I can outsource things to make life easier and give me time to myself and do fun things with the kids.

But...there is a bit of emptiness. Dh misses out on a lot of school things (missed DD's choral concert, missed DS's Scout thing, etc). Abd the kids grow so fast. Dh was surprised when DS didn't his help getting his shoes on. Dh was like "when did that happen?" Um, yea, you weren't here for milestones.

No amount of money in the world can fix or replace that.

agreed I think outsourcing can certainly help with the load of responsibilities and that can create more happiness and relaxation but I do think it sends a bad message to the children that their parent constantly prioritizes work over them and is totally uninvolved in their day-to-day life.

Exactly. The crux of the question is shouldn’t the dad be engaged with wife/kids/other family? It just sounds like these men live separate lives from their families and so what’s the point of having a family if you are not involved in their lives by participating and contributing? Also, how do you know that they are not cheating on their spouses?