Husband's request

[Anonymous]

Ha, I was going to guess law firm partner. They all seem to be on their second or third wives...

Consult over the phone with all the best divorce lawyers. That will conflict him out. Get the sharkiest shark who ever swam and show no mercy.

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wow, I would have started a list with things like:

emotional support
willing to move for your job/turn down a job I wanted for yours
help support/visit with/deal with your ageing mother
be the best parent I can be to our kids
listen to your day/jokes/complaints
take care of you when you are sick (and will do so when you are older/sicker, etc)
cook meals for everyone
sex/love/companionship
plan all our travel, deal with all our finances, sign up all kids for everything ever
be a witty, pretty companion on your arm at events
vacuum your car

Wow, I would have started my list with F*ck You!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:wow, I would have started a list with things like:

emotional support
willing to move for your job/turn down a job I wanted for yours
help support/visit with/deal with your ageing mother
be the best parent I can be to our kids
listen to your day/jokes/complaints
take care of you when you are sick (and will do so when you are older/sicker, etc)
cook meals for everyone
sex/love/companionship
plan all our travel, deal with all our finances, sign up all kids for everything ever
be a witty, pretty companion on your arm at events
vacuum your car

Wow, I would have started my list with F*ck You!

Hahahaha!!! I think that’s true for most of us!!

[Anonymous]

What have you said to him? Relationships do not exist within a vacuum.

[Anonymous]

I would say if you can’t answer that, we need marriage counseling or a divorce. Don’t engage otherwise (though the advice to consult a lawyer is a definite). Sorry you are married to such an a-hole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH asked me to write a list of what I am contributing to the marriage. His exact words were, "what value do you provide for me?"

For context, I do work FT and take care of our two kids when not working. One of our issues is that I make $100k and he makes $600k. I also make dinner every night. Clean up around the house of course.

I find this question kind of insulting. What do you think?

You likely take care of all the stuff on the homefront so he can “clear his mind and energy to focus on office work.”

You also bolster his status at the office as a Married Guy. You know, if someone actually married him he must not be a total @$$, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is insulting. With his salary though, everything you do could be outsouced. He could hire someone to make dinner. He could hire a house cleaner. He could hire a nanny for the kids. What do you bring to the marriage that he can’t outsource?

You’re kidding. Tell the courts that and see what happens RE; parenting and raising children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your marriage is over.

It was insulting. He doesn't respect you or anything you bring to the table, with a question like that.

Get to the lawyer before he does. Protect your assets.

+1

+100000

[Anonymous]

Put half of your savings in an account with just your name on it and consult an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wow, I would have started a list with things like:

emotional support
willing to move for your job/turn down a job I wanted for yours
help support/visit with/deal with your ageing mother
be the best parent I can be to our kids
listen to your day/jokes/complaints
take care of you when you are sick (and will do so when you are older/sicker, etc)
cook meals for everyone
sex/love/companionship
plan all our travel, deal with all our finances, sign up all kids for everything ever
be a witty, pretty companion on your arm at events
vacuum your car

No list.

A real spouse knows what’s going on with the kids, school, schedule, yard, cars, household and who’s doing what.
A selfish, clueless workaholic would not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH asked me to write a list of what I am contributing to the marriage. His exact words were, "what value do you provide for me?"

For context, I do work FT and take care of our two kids when not working. One of our issues is that I make $100k and he makes $600k. I also make dinner every night. Clean up around the house of course.

I find this question kind of insulting. What do you think?

As an attorney, I'd say to take this to a lawyer immediately. It sounds to me like he's getting ready to file for a divorce and trying to estimate how hard of hit he's going to take.

Again, as an attorney, I would highly recommend you not answer his demand. If this is divorce pretense, which I strongly suspect, his attorney will only use it against you.

Ignore people on here telling you what to say to him. Go talk to a lawyer. Now.

Agree. Do not engage. Do not answer this question. Treat it as a joke and plan your exit, support network, etcz

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here - your husband has brass balls. I am curious as to what his job is because the question is so cold, consulting-like. I’m pretty much an alpha male but I can’t fathom asking my wife that question given I know she’d give me a death stare and then rip me another butt hole. I make many multiples of my wife but I could never do what I do without her at my side.

Or a mental disorder rending him incapable of emotions, empathy or connecting with others.

[Anonymous]

I can’t even believe this guy asked a question like that. Talk to as many lawyers as you can ASAP. Take control of your future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here - your husband has brass balls. I am curious as to what his job is because the question is so cold, consulting-like. I’m pretty much an alpha male but I can’t fathom asking my wife that question given I know she’d give me a death stare and then rip me another butt hole. I make many multiples of my wife but I could never do what I do without her at my side.

Or a mental disorder rending him incapable of emotions, empathy or connecting with others.

Bingo. Personality disorder.