Considering adopting from foster care 2 or 3 siblings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We adopted a group of older siblings. We did not have biological children in our home at the time. There is no way I would recommend doing this with biological children in the home. It is simply tremendously unfair, and potentially dangerous, to the children whom you chose to bring into this world, and right now---your first responsibility is to them. Wait until your children are grown before you do this. Support at-risk kids in other ways---by supporting an at-risk family, or by volunteering with The Homeless Children's Playtime Project, an organization providing playgroups for kids living in DC family shelters.

wow. there are lots of blended adoptive families with multiple adopted kids, foster kids etc in the home. It is possible.. not every foster child is a predator.

[Anonymous]

Why do the kids have to be from another state?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do the kids have to be from another state?

They may want to lessen the possibility of running into any bio relatives. This post was from a few months ago, wonder what they decided to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do the kids have to be from another state?

They may want to lessen the possibility of running into any bio relatives. This post was from a few months ago, wonder what they decided to do.

That is SO sad and frankly predatory. They want, they want, they want what is good for the adoptive parents, not their bio children or the potential adoptive children who need to preserve kinship bonds as much as possible.

[Anonymous]

Gag -- you must be a social worker.

[Anonymous]

I'd be interested in this too. Any other suggestions.

[Anonymous]

My advice is don’t do it. I did (sibling group of two) and the toll it’s taken on my health, work, finances and relationship with my husband over the last decade is profound. You have no idea how difficult it is.