Are you sad that you can't have a biological child with your partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We (straight couple) couldn’t conceive no 2 without an egg donor. It does still make me sad in a tiny way that we couldn’t use my egg. He is fantastic and so close to my dh but I do mourn that genetic connection and we are several years out of the baby stage. So no you are not weird or alone.

Hi OP - lesbian mom of a 9 month-old here. After many, many rounds of IVF with my eggs and my wife's eggs without luck, we transitioned to an egg donor that resulted in our beautiful, perfect son. I was definitely sad to transition to an egg donor. And I still have pangs of sadness about my guy not being genetically mine. So I don't think it's at all weird to be sad about it.

But I'll tell you that the joy he brings to every day of our lives so far surpasses those feelings of sadness. And I am grateful EVERY SINGLE DAY for the amazing gift the egg and sperm donors gave to us. I think of them and send good thoughts to them all the time.

Sending hugs to you. I hope things go smoothly and you have a baby soon - and when you do, I feel sure that these feelings will fade.