Are you sad that you can't have a biological child with your partner?

[Anonymous]

Maybe you could get a sperm donation from her father?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m all for same sex marriage and have zero homophobia, but come on it takes two opposite genders to make a baby! That’s just the way it is.

Back in the 1800s. All it takes is science. And really good reproductive endocrinologists. Welcome to 2020! We’ve been expecting you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m all for same sex marriage and have zero homophobia, but come on it takes two opposite genders to make a baby! That’s just the way it is.

Back in the 1800s. All it takes is science. And really good reproductive endocrinologists. Welcome to 2020! We’ve been expecting you.

You appear quite unfamiliar with the science in this scenario.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m all for same sex marriage and have zero homophobia, but come on it takes two opposite genders to make a baby! That’s just the way it is.

Back in the 1800s. All it takes is science. And really good reproductive endocrinologists. Welcome to 2020! We’ve been expecting you.

You appear quite unfamiliar with the science in this scenario.

+1

Do tell about the scenarios where 2 women have a biological child that share both of their genes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lesbian mother to 2 teens. Yes, I wish I could have had our children with my wife. But, I also wish I had less freckles. Or that I could retire at 50. Or I was more athletically inclined. They are things I WISH for, but am not SAD about. Our kids are now teens and those who don’t know us well/didn’t know us 15y ago, have no idea who carried the kids (FWIW, I did.) And one of our kids looks a LOT like my wife and the other has her personality traits and it extremely bonded to her.

I think it is normal in the planning/early stages of parenthood to focus on genetics, worry about bonding, etc. But as someone who is pretty far down the lesbian parenting path, it ends up not mattering at all. Your kid(s) end up being your kids…

The all above is totally under your control: you want less freckles, stay away from the sun, wear wide hats, sunscreen, whitening creams. You can retire at 50 or earlier with some financial planning done earlier in life. You can train to anything pretty much as long as you put your mind and time into it. There is no way you can have a child with the same gender partner, no matter how much time, money or mind you will put into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could get a sperm donation from her father?

This is gross. Then the grandfather will be a biological father of the child. It will be very weird dynamics.

[Anonymous]

Mom of an adopted DD here. ( 2 Mom family) no regrets whatsoever, I don’t need a biological connection to love my child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could get a sperm donation from her father?

This is gross. Then the grandfather will be a biological father of the child. It will be very weird dynamics.

Dh and I have kids. We used his sperm and my sisters eggs. They were carried by a surrogate. They are biologically related to both of us. But they are our kids. Not weird to us or my sister. Maybe you don’t realize that her partner and her father would not have sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could get a sperm donation from her father?

This is gross. Then the grandfather will be a biological father of the child. It will be very weird dynamics.

Dh and I have kids. We used his sperm and my sisters eggs. They were carried by a surrogate. They are biologically related to both of us. But they are our kids. Not weird to us or my sister. Maybe you don’t realize that her partner and her father would not have sex?

I totally understand that, but it is still a biological child of the grandfather. It is not only about sex, it is about family dynamics and how it is going to influence the child. Ok, maybe I am just too old fashioned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m all for same sex marriage and have zero homophobia, but come on it takes two opposite genders to make a baby! That’s just the way it is.

I don't think you understand the meaning of gender. Does it take sperm and an egg to make a baby, yes. Does it take any particular combination of genders, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m all for same sex marriage and have zero homophobia, but come on it takes two opposite genders to make a baby! That’s just the way it is.

Agree...
It’s like taking to positive batteries and facing them together, it just won’t work.
Some of us were born to produce sperm and others to produce eggs.
Sorry...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m all for same sex marriage and have zero homophobia, but come on it takes two opposite genders to make a baby! That’s just the way it is.

I don't think you understand the meaning of gender. Does it take sperm and an egg to make a baby, yes. Does it take any particular combination of genders, no.

So one of the two needs to be inseminated via turkey baster or have sex with a man that produces sperm.

[Anonymous]

I had a friend who used the same donor sperm and she carried the first child and her partner carried the second. The kids are biological siblings. I think that is great if you can do that.

That being said, there are so many families out there who need help fertility-wise that this is a common issue. But it’s also the best age it’s ever been to have assisted reproductive technology. So for being a lesbian, out couple with the technology and means to bear children, I’d say there is a lot to be grateful for.

Also... I’m adopted and am adopting a child. I do have my own bio kids but for a big part of my life I had no one who looked like me. While it’s not something I undervalue as a result, it’s also not the end all be all.

[Anonymous]

That’s just nature for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m all for same sex marriage and have zero homophobia, but come on it takes two opposite genders to make a baby! That’s just the way it is.

Back in the 1800s. All it takes is science. And really good reproductive endocrinologists. Welcome to 2020! We’ve been expecting you.

You appear quite unfamiliar with the science in this scenario.

+1

Do tell about the scenarios where 2 women have a biological child that share both of their genes.

+2

Sorry, social science doesn’t count.