Spinoff- What brands DO you like? What do you consider elegant?

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Céline
Zara scarves

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I love a good Breton stripe top. There are so many options out there!

Brands I haven’t seen mentioned: Loro Piana, Hobbs, Whistles, Club Monaco for a good black dress, classic Ray-Bans are still the best sunglasses. Veronica Beard, Roksanda, and I also love Barbour for waxed jackets. Cuyana. Sentaler and Cinzia Rocca for coats. I wish there was an Aritzia closer to my house.

I hate shopping for jeans, so I buy cheap ones that fit my widest part and get them tailored. They never look good on me off the rack.

I love Zara. Not a big H&M fan.

Most of my good jewelry is vintage (I’ve posted about that before; I love the hunt), but some contemporary designers I enjoy: Missoma, Erdem, Miranda Frye, Zara again, Dani Barbe, Catbird, Madewell sometimes, David Smallcombe, Tai, Pippa Small, Monica Vinader. I’ve always wanted a Helen Ficalora initial necklace in plain gold but I feel like I’m too old now.

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Anonymous wrote:Land Rover.

do you live in the Scottish highlands? Otherwise driving around a large urban city in a Land Rover is silly looking

always someone knocking someone else on this thread....sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Land Rover.

do you live in the Scottish highlands? Otherwise driving around a large urban city in a Land Rover is silly looking

always someone knocking someone else on this thread....sad.

A lot of it is jealousy, obvi!

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Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This is where I am at (JCrew seems like a splurge now that we have 2 kids) and we have a HHI over $500k. How much do you have to make to dress like that? Or do most of you not have kids?

How is that possible - how much do you spend on childcare and mortgage? We make a little less than you, mortgage is $800k and childcare about $50k but certainly j crew doesn’t feel like a splurge!

Could there please be just one thread that does not include a person who makes more than 99.99% of the people on earth wondering how they ever will be able to afford nice things? Please?

Mortgage is $500k, childcare is $15k, I don’t know, I just feel like designer clothes seem so out of our range! I think we would have to have millions banked, college fully loaded, etc before I could justify buying a $2500 bag or $900 shoes!

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I buy all my nice stuff secondhand. Not in debt and don't make anywhere close to $500k.

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Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This is where I am at (JCrew seems like a splurge now that we have 2 kids) and we have a HHI over $500k. How much do you have to make to dress like that? Or do most of you not have kids?

How is that possible - how much do you spend on childcare and mortgage? We make a little less than you, mortgage is $800k and childcare about $50k but certainly j crew doesn’t feel like a splurge!

Mortgage is $500k, childcare is $15k, I don’t know, I just feel like designer clothes seem so out of our range! I think we would have to have millions banked, college fully loaded, etc before I could justify buying a $2500 bag or $900 shoes!

You’re either saving a TON or your spending it on stuff other than clothing.

We make a similar HHI, save a lot , and I probably spend $10-15k a year on designer clothing. Plus another $2-3k in shoes. I simply value dressing well and looking out together.

I think we would just have to have all savings goals reached before considering spending money like that on clothes. For what it’s worth, I think it’s still possible to dress nice on a JCrew level clothing budget. Will people think you’re rich? no, probably not. Will it fit as nice? I would love that but I guess with two young kids it just doesn’t make sense right now.. a lot of my clothes get stained and ruined from the kids spilling on me. I just can’t imagine spending $18k a year on clothes for myself. That sounds absolutely amazing!

Most of our friends are in a similar income bracket and buy similar prices points as JCrew (on sale!) with some contemporary (usually nicer jeans or coat) mixed in or maybe one splurge bag a year. The only people I personally know that dress in mostly designer are making 7 figure incomes, have major family money .. so I don’t think I’m the only one who feels that is out of range on our HHI.

I guess I am not seeing it as all or nothing. I personally don’t know anyone that dresses in head to toe designer (aside from A few crazy rich Asians types from school) I do pretty much dress myself in j crew or the equivalent and there are always sales and mix in a few higher end pieces. But you’re right there is a lot of spilling and so I pretty much change as soon as I get home. And on off days I like to slum it in yoga pants.

I looked at the Fold someone suggested on another thread and Reiss and honestly those look pretty nice to me, for work anyway. I like theory too. I think it’s all about tailoring and fabrics. No one with young kids that is a hands on parent is wearing fancy stuff on the weekends to the playground.

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Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This makes me so sad! You clearly have great taste. Wear that scarf, dear, just put on some great stud earrings, a turleneck and jeans and flats, and a great lipstick, that scarf is the perfect addition. Could be for a dinner party or a date. Don't try to overdress it up with a dress + scarf. Winter is the perfect time for your lovely present!

+1. You can wear Hermes scarf with plain JCrew white t-shirt, jeans and flats. You don't need to be dressed up in all high end brand.