Unstable sister pregnant

[Anonymous]

I would strongly suggest an honest talk with your sister about adoption. She may want this child, but it sounds like she does not have the ability to care for an infant responsibly, and you have more than done your duty in raising her son and now taking care of your elderly father. You are not responsible for your sister's many bad choices, and you should not feel obliged to be her fallback on a decision of this magnitude.

I have numerous friends who are blessed to be adoptive parents. These are people who prayed for a child, and who are forever grateful to have been given the chance to raise another woman's baby. Please talk to your sister about considering giving this child up for adoption. Let her know that while there is no way you can raise another child at this point in your life, there are many people out there who could provide a loving home for her baby, if she is committed to keeping this pregnancy. It would be a very selfless and noble decision. But in the end, the decision, and the baby, is her responsibility.

Bless you for doing as much as you have for her up until this point, but if you do not let her own up to her choices and responsibilities, she will continue to expect you to bear the weight.