how do some people do it??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 3 mo and 2 yo and our place is a wreck at end of day while I’m on mat leave. Baby will not be put down for naps / stay asleep more than 15 min so I can’t even use downtime to accomplish stuff. So frustrating. My 2 yo is thankfully in daycare but our cleaning lady was here and still upstairs when the tiny Tasmanian devil dumped all the balls from ball pit and all the blocks out..looked like cleaners never even there within 5 min. I can get him to sort of help put some back but then he wants to dump it again. Sigh. One of his friends loves picking things up- alas he does not. I can’t make him do it, but I know he freaking does clean up at school, so maybe they are just better behaved for others.

I do meal plan on my phone while holding napping baby or during downtime when working and order groceries. I’ve become very efficient and can’t sit still. When we had just the one it was easy enough to do stuff during nap but with second baby that won’t nap independently it’s a no go.

One day....

This doesn’t make any sense. Three month olds can’t even crawl. Wear your baby while you clean and cook. A three month old who will only sleep for 15 minutes has a medical problem. A child that age should be sleeping at least 15 hours a day. You have plenty of time to keep a nice house. You’re an example of a women only making her own life harder.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I could do all that too if I got to clock out at closing time and go home to my quiet empty apartment.

No, you couldn't. There is no excuse for a house to be trashed at the end of the day. This happens because OP allows her child to both make and leave messes all over the house. Also, OP is not organized and has no one to blame but herself. I was a a SAH for ten years, with zero help except a cleaning woman who came in every other week. I never had a trashed house. I made a menu every week and stuck to it with grocery shopping once a week. So did every woman I knew whether they worked or stayed home. It is nothing more than a matter of being organized.

Hahahaha....”ZERO help” oh except for the cleaning lady who came bi-weekly. Lol!

Exactly! The cleaning lady bi weekly was why your house was never trashed! SMH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's her job and she is good at it. I presume you are good at your job too?

One would think so.

Its also funny that people assume moms automatically will be good at taking care of their kids. Many are not good and nurturing caregivers. Many don't want to be.

Her job is to take care of your kids. Household tasks should be her second priority. If she has all the time to be doing household tasks, she’s probably ignoring your kids. Plenty of the PPs on here are prioritizing a clean house over spending tome with their kids. I lowered my standards. Two working parents, no family, no money for extra household help or a twice a week cleaning lady or any of that other stuff. So some part of our house is always cluttered or needs attention. Dishes and laundry might be done but living room is a mess. Meals and prepped and bathroom is clean but laundry needs doing. I prioritize my family, sleep, work, my sanity, and then how clean my house is. Change your expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's her job and she is good at it. I presume you are good at your job too?

One would think so.

Its also funny that people assume moms automatically will be good at taking care of their kids. Many are not good and nurturing caregivers. Many don't want to be.

Her job is to take care of your kids. Household tasks should be her second priority. If she has all the time to be doing household tasks, she’s probably ignoring your kids. Plenty of the PPs on here are prioritizing a clean house over spending tome with their kids. I lowered my standards. Two working parents, no family, no money for extra household help or a twice a week cleaning lady or any of that other stuff. So some part of our house is always cluttered or needs attention. Dishes and laundry might be done but living room is a mess. Meals and prepped and bathroom is clean but laundry needs doing. I prioritize my family, sleep, work, my sanity, and then how clean my house is. Change your expectations.

Lower standards for sanity! We all have too much to do. A century ago, economists were predicting we'd all be down to a 20 hour work week by now. Well, we're not. Because we all gotta haul ass so the 1% can afford another yacht. I choose low standards and time to watch Hulu.