THAT Mom...

[Anonymous]

Ok.

[Anonymous]

They probably don't have sex. I used to be that mom, but I was so sick of my sexless marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:I am constantly looking for a mom mentor... whether it be a current mom or an older mom. I don't envy women with nice clothes, fancy jobs, or homes. But my gosh I envy women who do parenting well. I envy women who have raised kind, intelligent, productive children. I want to know their secrets because there are days where I can barely keep it together. My own mother was not the greatest example/model for me and so I really admire these type of women.

I am complimented every day on my children (who are now in college). Honestly, I'm a mess too.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I would never wish anything but the best for her and I'm happy for her and any woman who is successful in life, which means different things for different people. I was attempting to share what I thought may be an experience others have had. The responses have pushed this thread into something I didn't intend, so I think I'll just end it there.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I would never wish anything but the best for her and I'm happy for her and any woman who is successful in life, which means different things for different people. I was attempting to share what I thought may be an experience others have had. The responses have pushed this thread into something I didn't intend, so I think I'll just end it there.

I didn't read the thread, OP, but have learned not to compare my insides to someone else's outsides (thanks, Rob Lowe). I have a good friend who presents similarly as you describe--and have heard mutual acquaintances describe her as such, not realizing that she has a god-awful marriage to an abusive, controlling bastard, her kids have multiple SN, and she can barely keep it together many days. She does a damn good job of hiding most of that.

Point being, you just don't know what's real. Do your best with your life.

[Anonymous]

My cousin’s wife is like this. You may literally be talking about her. She looks like she has the PERFECT life. But i will say there are some underlying issues, sometimes addressed by her, sometimes not.

Maybe it will all pay off and they will have a beautiful life and their kid(s) will also have a beautiful perfect life, as they are setting her up to have.

But I have a feeling there is a 50% chance that a slew of issues with explode. Explode. I don’t wish that on them, but there are things that are going to catch up to them eventually. Or like I said, maybe it will all work out / issues will continue to be masked.

And even if it does explode I have a feeling she will land on her feet. But my cousin and the kid(s)?—not so sure

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin’s wife is like this. You may literally be talking about her. She looks like she has the PERFECT life. But i will say there are some underlying issues, sometimes addressed by her, sometimes not.

Maybe it will all pay off and they will have a beautiful life and their kid(s) will also have a beautiful perfect life, as they are setting her up to have.

But I have a feeling there is a 50% chance that a slew of issues with explode. Explode. I don’t wish that on them, but there are things that are going to catch up to them eventually. Or like I said, maybe it will all work out / issues will continue to be masked.

And even if it does explode I have a feeling she will land on her feet. But my cousin and the kid(s)?—not so sure

What does this mean?

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin’s wife is like this. You may literally be talking about her. She looks like she has the PERFECT life. But i will say there are some underlying issues, sometimes addressed by her, sometimes not.

Maybe it will all pay off and they will have a beautiful life and their kid(s) will also have a beautiful perfect life, as they are setting her up to have.

But I have a feeling there is a 50% chance that a slew of issues with explode. Explode. I don’t wish that on them, but there are things that are going to catch up to them eventually. Or like I said, maybe it will all work out / issues will continue to be masked.

And even if it does explode I have a feeling she will land on her feet. But my cousin and the kid(s)?—not so sure

And I have been jealous. But it’s not for me to follow her.
-I would need facial reconstruction surgery. She was born like a Barbie doll
-I would only be able to eat brown rice and raw vegetables for years
-I would make sacrifices that she has made.. and I just couldn’t
-her husband looks like he has it all too, but she is unhappy with his career trajectory.... which has very little solutions if they stay where they are (which is good for HER career). Either way, dh and I are happy.
-there is a mother child relationship that has a 50-50 chance of turning south (isn’t that all of us?)
-Other things I couldn’t do, but won’t get into specifics

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^would = wouldnt

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc.

Eh I don't know about this. My husband makes a lot of money and we split everything 50/50. I work super part time and he still cooks dinner most nights!

I wouldn't call my job exciting. But that's on me. I'm sure another woman in my position could find an exciting, glamorous job. I have the opportunities and time, I just don't want to put in the effort.

So you still are missing something, the exciting career.

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Heres a surface question to your surface question. Is the mom really pretty though? Because in my area there are A LOT of moms who fit your description but their actual face is very meh. Yes they are fit, yes they are wealthy, yes they wear expensive workout clothes, yes they have huge SUV's but their actual face ...their actual beauty...is very average or below. And thats with the 10 pounds of "no make up" make up. So there's my vain response to your vain question. Those moms usually aren't even pretty.