Same. |
That’s the spirit. |
She’s on aderall. |
Altho, now she is perfect and also has a tragic backstory, which is even more perfect --- but only if you are a character in a tv drama. In real life it sucks. She is a person, you might never become friends, you might not get to know her to know what it is all about, but trust: she is a person and not an aspirational character. And let it go!! I bet you are awesome and don't know it. Do the best you can do. Align life with your own values. Great hair and outfits are not really important. Hot, helpful husbands? Well, you got me there haha!! |
I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc. |
I was thinking the same thing. It always seems to be a trade off to me. I know some with the job, but they look exhausted most of the time. And some with the husband and the house and tons of money, but they don’t usually work, and aren’t particularly kind outside of their friend group. I really can’t think of anyone with the big job, amazing house, great kid and marriage, etc etc. Maybe you just don’t know her very well, OP. |
Of course she is all that she seems. It's unkind to assume otherwise.
Some people just try harder than others. |
Yet some women (or men) truly do have it all. Life isn't fair - some people get the brains, beauty, involved and devoted husband, house, health, kids AND money. |
Eh I don't know about this. My husband makes a lot of money and we split everything 50/50. I work super part time and he still cooks dinner most nights! I wouldn't call my job exciting. But that's on me. I'm sure another woman in my position could find an exciting, glamorous job. I have the opportunities and time, I just don't want to put in the effort. |
I don't understand this instinct to tear people down. You see someone who seems to "have it all" and your gut assumption is that she must be hiding something??
What is so hard about understanding that some people have beauty, brains, and love? |
If you have any hatred for someone like this, you have a lot of work to do. I know a family like this and I am so happy they are in my lives and happy that such nice people can "have it all". I mean, I'm sure they really don't, but I like the idea that not all rich, uber blessed people aren't shallow a-holes. |
That sounds unfair to your DH. You should consider doing more. Do your share. |
+ 1 I think this is becoming the norm among the alpha men types. I know many senior partners, managing directors, c-suite executives, in demand surgeons, etc. who show up to all the games and school stuff. It's the way that society is moving. I think it's possible for them to do now that it's socially acceptable to have your kids later in life. Now that people aren't even starting until their mid thirties, such an arrangement is possible where it wouldn't have been if you had kids in your mid twenties and were still building your career and putting in the necessary face time. Plus technology. Everyone I know does kid stuff in the early evening then jumps back on their lap tops after kids go to bed. |
If my DH doesn't care, why should you? |
I agree. Having a husband who makes a lot of money (say, 500k + in this area) and helps out 50/50 at home is not unusual at all. Ambitious women expect their husbands to put in the effort at home. However, to the OP's point, not every woman is beautiful and stylish. My husband and I both have great careers, 3 kids, a very happy marriage but I wouldn't say that I am beautiful and HGTV/magazine stylish. That's a skill set you're either born with or not. So I'm sure no one is envious of my life. |