"Our family is complete"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If anything, it’s insulting to the first child, who apparently, wasn’t good enough.

It’s up there with “rainbow baby”, the baby we just may not have even had if the baby we actually wanted had been born.

It’s not insulting to the first child. Most people feel like a child needs siblings for THEIR family to be complete. Parents die. Siblings are supposed to be the people who go through life with you, who know you from birth, know what it was like to grow up together. It’s not that MY family was incomplete with the first kid... I felt HERS was incomplete without a sibling.

[Anonymous]

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Why are you assuming it means sterilization? For me it means that they feel happy withe the number of children they have.

Your mind has a... certain bent, OP... Creepy.

...because otherwise how could you be certain you won't have another?

OP is just trolling now.

I had an accidental pregnancy and a second conceived on the first try at a time we had a commuter marriage. I could never say "complete" without sterilization in the picture.

[Anonymous]

It's a nice way of saying "we're not having more kids, so don't ask."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a nice way of saying "we're not having more kids, so don't ask."

I guess I don't like it along with the birth announcement. Chill, lady, I wasn't going to ask you about more kids.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I'm usually pretty picky about these types of phrases but it never occurred to me that it meant anything of any significance regarding family size, plans for more,etc. Sort of like "our hearts are full" never implied to me that they were empty before or can't be even more full (I.e. more kids) in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By the way, I would also feel uncomfortable if a health care provider asked me if my family is complete. She could simply ask, are you open to more children or would you prefer to prevent pregnancy right now? People can change their minds about their family being complete, so it seems like a weird thing to say, in my opinion. I'm also Catholic, so that does color my view on this question. Doctors are trained to be respectful towards people of all different religions now and there is usually a question about religion at the top of my patient admit forms, so I wish that doctors would be respectful of my faith.

Really? I’m also a practicing Catholic and my family is definitely complete. I see nothing offensive about being asked that or saying it. And, I go to a Catholic OB-GYN practice and have no problems telling my doctor I don’t want any more kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a nice way of saying "we're not having more kids, so don't ask."

I guess I don't like it along with the birth announcement. Chill, lady, I wasn't going to ask you about more kids.

You know she sent it to more than just you, right? Try being a mom of three boys and see how many times you get asked about another in one week.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:By the way, I would also feel uncomfortable if a health care provider asked me if my family is complete. She could simply ask, are you open to more children or would you prefer to prevent pregnancy right now? People can change their minds about their family being complete, so it seems like a weird thing to say, in my opinion. I'm also Catholic, so that does color my view on this question. Doctors are trained to be respectful towards people of all different religions now and there is usually a question about religion at the top of my patient admit forms, so I wish that doctors would be respectful of my faith.

Really? I’m also a practicing Catholic and my family is definitely complete. I see nothing offensive about being asked that or saying it. And, I go to a Catholic OB-GYN practice and have no problems telling my doctor I don’t want any more kids.

I certainly have practicing Catholic friends who would prefer not to have more kids. However, it's usually not just because they have had the obligatory two that most people in general society have. Does your Catholic OB/GYN support/teach NFP?