"Our family is complete"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WHY is it a thing now that when referring to their 2nd or 3rd child people tell you "now our family is complete." Ah, so your husband got snipped? I mean really, TMI, I don't need to know this information and I'm not sure why people feel the need to declare it with a pregnancy or birth announcement.

It’s to prevent rude questions asking if you are having more.

[Anonymous]

That is s phrase coined by reproductive endocrinologists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh. Probably just trying to head off the inevitable "are you going to try for a boy/girl/third/fourth" conversations in 18 months. Pretty harmless as far as TMI goes.

This.

It most certainly does not mean dad got snipped. It's just something some people print on a birth announcement. NBD.

Of course, when my sibling posted that on the birth announcement, I couldn't help but tease that God might throw them a curveball...surprise babies happen when you get older and careless ;0)

[Anonymous]

I have one child and won't have more--there is no reason not to have another except that we don't want more kids. So yeah, saying "our family feels complete!" or "we're all accounted for!" is a friendly way to be like, "yeah I know you think I am depriving my child of a sibling but I am not talking to you about this."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one child and won't have more--there is no reason not to have another except that we don't want more kids. So yeah, saying "our family feels complete!" or "we're all accounted for!" is a friendly way to be like, "yeah I know you think I am depriving my child of a sibling but I am not talking to you about this."

If people are rude enough to pry, I tell them why and they are horrified at what happened. At least they don't bring it up again. You have kids for you, not for your child to have a sibling. I don't understand that comment. If someone needs a sibling, they can have mine.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one child and won't have more--there is no reason not to have another except that we don't want more kids. So yeah, saying "our family feels complete!" or "we're all accounted for!" is a friendly way to be like, "yeah I know you think I am depriving my child of a sibling but I am not talking to you about this."

If people are rude enough to pry, I tell them why and they are horrified at what happened. At least they don't bring it up again. You have kids for you, not for your child to have a sibling. I don't understand that comment. If someone needs a sibling, they can have mine.

The thing is, people ARE rude enough to pry. I have never said this because I wish we would have more (but won't for a lot of reasons), so it doesn't *feel* complete to me, but I have straight up said "nope, this is it, we're done" when people have said "soooo are you going to try for the other sex next?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, DH is not "snipped" and yes, our family is complete. You sound like such a great person to be around, OP.

Then how do you know your family is complete? Sounds like you could have another -- woman with an unintended pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds pretty socially clueless if she doesn't realize what this is for. Nosy people ask about more kids all of the time. And no, just because ones family is complete does not mean anyone was 'snipped'

[Anonymous]

Why are you assuming it means sterilization? For me it means that they feel happy withe the number of children they have.

Your mind has a... certain bent, OP... Creepy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Why are you assuming it means sterilization? For me it means that they feel happy withe the number of children they have.

Your mind has a... certain bent, OP... Creepy.

...because otherwise how could you be certain you won't have another?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Why are you assuming it means sterilization? For me it means that they feel happy withe the number of children they have.

Your mind has a... certain bent, OP... Creepy.

...because otherwise how could you be certain you won't have another?

OP is just trolling now.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Why are you assuming it means sterilization? For me it means that they feel happy withe the number of children they have.

Your mind has a... certain bent, OP... Creepy.

...because otherwise how could you be certain you won't have another?

For medical reasons, we know we won't.

[Anonymous]

When people ask you invasive questions, don’t be offended-just give them an answer. Make it up. Be like, yes, we hope to have 5 or 6! Who cares? Those aren’t even real friends.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Why are you assuming it means sterilization? For me it means that they feel happy withe the number of children they have.

Your mind has a... certain bent, OP... Creepy.

...because otherwise how could you be certain you won't have another?

I agree with this. If you aren't sterilized and you're still having sex with your spouse, you could become pregnant. If you are saying that EITHER one of you got sterilized OR you plan to have an abortion if you get pregnant again, that is way too much personal information to share on Facebook or an Instagram. I agree with OP 100%. I feel very uncomfortable when someone say, "Our family is complete." I also would never ask someone I wasn't extremely close to if they would like to have another.

[Anonymous]

By the way, I would also feel uncomfortable if a health care provider asked me if my family is complete. She could simply ask, are you open to more children or would you prefer to prevent pregnancy right now? People can change their minds about their family being complete, so it seems like a weird thing to say, in my opinion. I'm also Catholic, so that does color my view on this question. Doctors are trained to be respectful towards people of all different religions now and there is usually a question about religion at the top of my patient admit forms, so I wish that doctors would be respectful of my faith.