DH looked up a hot girl on FB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If looking up hot women in my neighborhood on Facebook was an Olympic sport, I'd be on the podium every time. I often do it in plain sight of my wife too. Thankfully I don't have to live in fear like your husband does.

These types of marriages are never as solid as the wandering-eyed spouse would like them to seem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like harmless fun between guys. Im sure it would bug me a little but probably wouldn’t let him know I was snooping.

You eavesdropped on two men discussing a hot woman from afar. A woman that probably neither of them would know how to approach if they were single for they know she is way out of their league. But they do get to look and exchange notes. As guys are known to do.

I'd look her up on Facebook also. Now, if you saw your H messaging her, that's a whole different crossed line. But, looking her up and discussing her with another guy? You really don't know much about men if you feel like that is a threat.

[Anonymous]

I really wouldn't consider this a threat. Everyone sometimes talks about people they know who they think are attractive (yes, even women! We're not all prudes or something).

If he was messaging her or obsessing over her that would be a different story, but talking with a friend is not a big deal. I am 100% certain my DH is not straying, but I'd be freaked out if he didn't find ANYONE else attractive. It wouldn't be natural.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. OP, you're the one breaking his trust by spying on him, reading his private messages, and then lying to him by omission that you've done this. So you found out that he and another guy giggle together about the hot girl at the office. That's it. Dear God. I feel so sorry for your husband. You really should reflect on why you don't trust him, and from what you've posted it sounds like it has nothing to do with him. He deserves to be with someone who trusts him and respects him. You don't, and it will corrode your marriage. Go to therapy.

This response is complete BS, and I’m calling it out. The OP’s husband is going behind her back telling a male friend that he finds another woman, to whom he did not commit his life to in front of God and all his and her friends and families, that he thinks she’s hot. This is disgusting, disrespectful behavior and to call it locker room talk/boys will be boys reminds me a lot of the apologists for our pussy-grabbing commander in chief.

I’m sorry you are going through this, OP. None of us can really say whether you were actually snooping or not; only you know the answer to that. Either way, this is not a tit-for-tat situation, and snooping wouldn’t excuse your husbands disrespectful behavior. Good luck to you.

Wait - you are equating actual, honest to god sexual assault with one man saying to another that he thinks a woman who is not his wife (God would NOT approve!) is hot?

You're a lunatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. OP, you're the one breaking his trust by spying on him, reading his private messages, and then lying to him by omission that you've done this. So you found out that he and another guy giggle together about the hot girl at the office. That's it. Dear God. I feel so sorry for your husband. You really should reflect on why you don't trust him, and from what you've posted it sounds like it has nothing to do with him. He deserves to be with someone who trusts him and respects him. You don't, and it will corrode your marriage. Go to therapy.

This response is complete BS, and I’m calling it out. The OP’s husband is going behind her back telling a male friend that he finds another woman, to whom he did not commit his life to in front of God and all his and her friends and families, that he thinks she’s hot. This is disgusting, disrespectful behavior and to call it locker room talk/boys will be boys reminds me a lot of the apologists for our pussy-grabbing commander in chief.

I’m sorry you are going through this, OP. None of us can really say whether you were actually snooping or not; only you know the answer to that. Either way, this is not a tit-for-tat situation, and snooping wouldn’t excuse your husbands disrespectful behavior. Good luck to you.

Wait - you are equating actual, honest to god sexual assault with one man saying to another that he thinks a woman who is not his wife (God would NOT approve!) is hot?

You're a lunatic.

Exactly. Wow.

I've talked to my friends about men we think are attractive (including those we know and celebrities). I've never--and would never--cheat on my husband.

Am I disgusting too, PP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It was Bill grabbing pussy in the Oval Office, not your “orange” guy.

Screw any man, Democrat or republican, who acts like this.

JFK and Clinton are the ones we know about.

You sound like you probably came to DC from the Deep South. Women around here don’t think like you.
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Im from the “Deep South” and I’m a liberal. Quit with your mf stereotypes.

OP: quit snooping on your husband. This is a problem of your own making.

[Anonymous]

Is she under 18? Why is she a “girl?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. OP, you're the one breaking his trust by spying on him, reading his private messages, and then lying to him by omission that you've done this. So you found out that he and another guy giggle together about the hot girl at the office. That's it. Dear God. I feel so sorry for your husband. You really should reflect on why you don't trust him, and from what you've posted it sounds like it has nothing to do with him. He deserves to be with someone who trusts him and respects him. You don't, and it will corrode your marriage. Go to therapy.

This response is complete BS, and I’m calling it out. The OP’s husband is going behind her back telling a male friend that he finds another woman, to whom he did not commit his life to in front of God and all his and her friends and families, that he thinks she’s hot. This is disgusting, disrespectful behavior and to call it locker room talk/boys will be boys reminds me a lot of the apologists for our pussy-grabbing commander in chief.

I’m sorry you are going through this, OP. None of us can really say whether you were actually snooping or not; only you know the answer to that. Either way, this is not a tit-for-tat situation, and snooping wouldn’t excuse your husbands disrespectful behavior. Good luck to you.

This is normal behavior for both men and women. When someone is hot, you talk about them to your friends and sometimes look them up on FB. What's so disgusting about that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. OP, you're the one breaking his trust by spying on him, reading his private messages, and then lying to him by omission that you've done this. So you found out that he and another guy giggle together about the hot girl at the office. That's it. Dear God. I feel so sorry for your husband. You really should reflect on why you don't trust him, and from what you've posted it sounds like it has nothing to do with him. He deserves to be with someone who trusts him and respects him. You don't, and it will corrode your marriage. Go to therapy.

This response is complete BS, and I’m calling it out. The OP’s husband is going behind her back telling a male friend that he finds another woman, to whom he did not commit his life to in front of God and all his and her friends and families, that he thinks she’s hot. This is disgusting, disrespectful behavior and to call it locker room talk/boys will be boys reminds me a lot of the apologists for our pussy-grabbing commander in chief.

I’m sorry you are going through this, OP. None of us can really say whether you were actually snooping or not; only you know the answer to that. Either way, this is not a tit-for-tat situation, and snooping wouldn’t excuse your husbands disrespectful behavior. Good luck to you.

This is normal behavior for both men and women. When someone is hot, you talk about them to your friends and sometimes look them up on FB. What's so disgusting about that?

Agreed. It's not like her DH tried to contact her.

[Anonymous]

I read this as ‘hooked up’ at first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was on my husband’s phone the other day for something else and randomly checked his fb and saw that in the recent searches he had been searching this hot local girl who appears to work in his building.

I was stunned. I then checked his messages and saw that just earlier this week he was telling his coworker he saw the “hot girl” while he was working out in the gym. They’re both talking about how attractive she is.

Erm... what do I do?

you then allow him to be on your phone, unsupervised and without preemptive cleaning of the info on your phone

[Anonymous]

News at 11. Yawn...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was on my husband’s phone the other day for something else and randomly checked his fb and saw that in the recent searches he had been searching this hot local girl who appears to work in his building.

I was stunned. I then checked his messages and saw that just earlier this week he was telling his coworker he saw the “hot girl” while he was working out in the gym. They’re both talking about how attractive she is.

Erm... what do I do?

Therapy for starters to figure out why you are so insecure.

[Anonymous]

Don't bring it up until your next fight.

[Anonymous]

This is nothing. Unless she's so much hotter than you AND he likes her pictures. Which now you'll have to find out...Why were you on his phone again??