DH looked up a hot girl on FB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's DCUM tradition that you panic and get a lawyer.

Haha this made me laugh. So true!

[Anonymous]

Do the same. Look up so me hot dude and leave the phone so he can see it, then have a fun conversation how to handle those things in the future.

[Anonymous]

Wait, why is this an issue? You mean to tell me women don't look up attractive men on facebook and talk about them with friends? Man here, serious question.

Like we explained in the other thread about whether men complain about their wives: we don't. The entire conversation centers around the hot new girl at work, sports and jokes, in that order. This is completely normal.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I’m a 35 year old mother of 3 married 10 years. If I saw this, I would be jealous and a bit turned on and would try to up my sexy/bedroom game. I wouldn’t say anything to him.

And personally, I am super nosy and look up people (including hot guys) all the time and text my bestie about them. I have zero intention of cheating. I’m married, not dead!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, why is this an issue? You mean to tell me women don't look up attractive men on facebook and talk about them with friends? Man here, serious question.

Like we explained in the other thread about whether men complain about their wives: we don't. The entire conversation centers around the hot new girl at work, sports and jokes, in that order. This is completely normal.

Mostly no, because looking at an attractive man's facebook page is boring. When I do look up somebody that I think my DH would look askance at, I would delete the search.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, why is this an issue? You mean to tell me women don't look up attractive men on facebook and talk about them with friends? Man here, serious question.

Like we explained in the other thread about whether men complain about their wives: we don't. The entire conversation centers around the hot new girl at work, sports and jokes, in that order. This is completely normal.

Mostly no, because looking at an attractive man's facebook page is boring. When I do look up somebody that I think my DH would look askance at, I would delete the search.

so a) you (and presumably most women) do look at attractive men, perhaps look them up, discuss the men with their friends. b) you (and presumably most women) cover your tracks because, well, because women are much more devious?

OP, you are putting on full display that you are batsh*t crazy if you think this is anything more than a normal man, with testosterone, noticing an attractive younger woman. should you worry? no. what should you do? make sure your bedroom is running hot and steamy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do the same. Look up so me hot dude and leave the phone so he can see it, then have a fun conversation how to handle those things in the future.

so taking the passive-aggressive route is preferred over using this to re-fuel the bedroom and making the most of OP's prying and snooping?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You didn’t randomly check his FB. There’s a reason ... what is it?

Not just his FB, but his recent searches on FB and his messages. You're freaking out because you already thought he was cheating on you, OP. What you've uncovered doesn't look like much to me, but if you give the backstory to explain why you hacked his social media in the first place it's probably a worse picture.

x a million much easier to deflect and blame someone else rather than own up to your own issues. are you surprised that your DH still has lead in his pencil,? is your bedroom dead? then do something about that.

[Anonymous]

Facebook is evil and the demise of too many marriages.

[Anonymous]

I stalk a hot fitness instructor online. I'm happily married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was on my husband’s phone the other day for something else and randomly checked his fb and saw that in the recent searches he had been searching this hot local girl who appears to work in his building.

I was stunned. I then checked his messages and saw that just earlier this week he was telling his coworker he saw the “hot girl” while he was working out in the gym. They’re both talking about how attractive she is.

Erm... what do I do?

You should have married a gay guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop snooping on your husband. That's what you do.

This.

[Anonymous]

OP he shouldn't care about the phone, both should be a open book. Just say, "hey honey I saw in your phone about the hot girl. Do you have a pic, I'd like to see". Laugh off his immature behavior, he'll probably feel stupid. I would probably suggests he watches what he says to co-workers. People gossip, he wouldn't want to be labeled "lecherous married guy".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, why is this an issue? You mean to tell me women don't look up attractive men on facebook and talk about them with friends? Man here, serious question.

Like we explained in the other thread about whether men complain about their wives: we don't. The entire conversation centers around the hot new girl at work, sports and jokes, in that order. This is completely normal.

We do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, why is this an issue? You mean to tell me women don't look up attractive men on facebook and talk about them with friends? Man here, serious question.

Like we explained in the other thread about whether men complain about their wives: we don't. The entire conversation centers around the hot new girl at work, sports and jokes, in that order. This is completely normal.

Mostly no, because looking at an attractive man's facebook page is boring. When I do look up somebody that I think my DH would look askance at, I would delete the search.

so a) you (and presumably most women) do look at attractive men, perhaps look them up, discuss the men with their friends. b) you (and presumably most women) cover your tracks because, well, because women are much more devious?

OP, you are putting on full display that you are batsh*t crazy if you think this is anything more than a normal man, with testosterone, noticing an attractive younger woman. should you worry? no. what should you do? make sure your bedroom is running hot and steamy.

Oh, honey. I'm sorry you live in fear.