Share you text etiquette suggestions

[Anonymous]

Very short texts seem rude to me. It’s ok if it’s family and your text is let the dog out. Reply OK. But with someone you don’t know well. K is pretty rude.

[Anonymous]

Short and succinct is best.

Honestly some of you need to get with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok serious question - is it rude to end a text in a Period?

No.

Yes

If you end your text with a period it can for sure be seen as rude. Like if I text "K." That is basically F you.

If you are just writing a normal sentence then punctuation makes you seem like an old fart

I would never text “K” or “F you.” And yes, I use punctuation.

Is everyone here in middle school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are old if you want people to ask permission to text. Thanks for “the 50 year old’s guide to texting.”

haha exactly! I'm 38 and this sounds crazy. Got a random text from a parent yesterday asking what time a get-together was. Not sure how they got my number, but I'm so glad they texted and didn't call and leave a message. It took me 2 seconds to respond and there was no phone tag.

[Anonymous]

I think some people just don't have boundaries anymore. If you aren't someone's friend then don't text them, let alone expect an immediate response. When you put your phone number in directories it is so you can be easily reached by your kid's friends parents if needed or the school. It is not so some impatient random person can text you and then keep bothering you if you don't reply in 2 seconds.

There was an old thread where someone's solution was to text "unsubscribe" back. Thought it was hilarious, but wouldn't go over well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op- if you don’t want to be texted then say something to the person. Why does everyone get offended these days? You have rules for texting- ok. It’s strange, but ok. Just communicate that.
& I wouldn’t call it etiquette. You get your panties in a knot about texts- must folks don’t. Your rules are not SOP

Also, I’ll add unless I’m your subordinate I’ll reach out to you any damned way I please.

You are that annoying coworker who texts with a bunch of abbreviations and doesn't get why nobody wants to receive your texts. One of non-subordinates just got in trouble with her superiors because so many people were offended by her strange and rude texts. She was texting responses which should have been handled appropriately in person. Then she came sobbing to my office (I was not one who complained) and couldn't understand why people were so mean. It is was not a generational thing. Her fellow millenials found her texts obnoxious. It was a social skills issues.

[Anonymous]

I have another one...

Make sure it id actually a cell phone you are texting. Some of us have landlines still too. That is another example where if you were actually friends with the person, you would know which was the landline.

[Anonymous]

If you are a boss, don't text your subordinates when they are on vacation unless it is a major emergency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have another one...

Make sure it id actually a cell phone you are texting. Some of us have landlines still too. That is another example where if you were actually friends with the person, you would know which was the landline.

Another sign you are old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think some people just don't have boundaries anymore. If you aren't someone's friend then don't text them, let alone expect an immediate response. When you put your phone number in directories it is so you can be easily reached by your kid's friends parents if needed or the school. It is not so some impatient random person can text you and then keep bothering you if you don't reply in 2 seconds.

There was an old thread where someone's solution was to text "unsubscribe" back. Thought it was hilarious, but wouldn't go over well.

Np I absolutely love the unsubscribe thing! The entitled idiots who text people without having a good reason probably wouldn’t get it though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have another one...

Make sure it id actually a cell phone you are texting. Some of us have landlines still too. That is another example where if you were actually friends with the person, you would know which was the landline.

Another sign you are old

I give the landline to sign up for things or people I don’t know that well. I don’t live with my cell phone in my hand and I don’t like random texts for things I didn’t ask for. I also work in an environment where we don’t bring in phones but have internet so if you actually want to reach me, send a damn email. If it makes you feel better to call people old farts, go ahead, but I’m betting your also some of the people flabbergasted that you’re not the CEO yet or don’t get the prime accounts to handle. It’s not about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some people need a guide to texting. I remember back when email was just becoming big people made all sorts of mistakes like putting messages in all caps (yelling) or CCing the whole world with back and forth convos. Here are my texting suggestions for the clueless. Please add yours.

1. Don't assume I want a text from you if we have not discussed taking it to that level.
I personally only text with my husband occasionally and my close friends text if it's urgent. Otherwise I prefer email. I find it strange when people I am not close to text me without asking me if it's OK. Some of them become downright obsessive with the texting until I have to actually request that the person use email. If we are not close I don't want my phone beeping at me because of you.

2. Sign your name to your text if we are not close
I only know phone numbers of my inner circle. If you aren't part of that and you text without putting your name I will wonder who texted me and I will not take the time to phone number match.

Your first suggestion is extraordinarily strange. You're not having sex with the person, s/hes just communication in the most efficient way. Chill, grandma.

HEE HEE

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some people just don't have boundaries anymore. If you aren't someone's friend then don't text them, let alone expect an immediate response. When you put your phone number in directories it is so you can be easily reached by your kid's friends parents if needed or the school. It is not so some impatient random person can text you and then keep bothering you if you don't reply in 2 seconds.

There was an old thread where someone's solution was to text "unsubscribe" back. Thought it was hilarious, but wouldn't go over well.

Np I absolutely love the unsubscribe thing! The "entitled idiots" who text people without having a good reason probably wouldn’t get it though.

Thank you for putting to words what I was thinking, but didn't want to say about people who text without a good reason. Don't think I can do it to random other parents though who text me with requests. I sign up to volunteer on evite, etc but did not put my number on some text me list for every volunteer opportunity. I have a job and cannot leave at a moments notice because you need someone to do some job that nobody signed up for on evite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op- if you don’t want to be texted then say something to the person. Why does everyone get offended these days? You have rules for texting- ok. It’s strange, but ok. Just communicate that.
& I wouldn’t call it etiquette. You get your panties in a knot about texts- must folks don’t. Your rules are not SOP

Also, I’ll add unless I’m your subordinate I’ll reach out to you any damned way I please.

I will say I don’t think it is okay for bosses to texting frequently outside of business hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have another one...

Make sure it id actually a cell phone you are texting. Some of us have landlines still too. That is another example where if you were actually friends with the person, you would know which was the landline.

Another sign you are old

I give the landline to sign up for things or people I don’t know that well. I don’t live with my cell phone in my hand and I don’t like random texts for things I didn’t ask for. I also work in an environment where we don’t bring in phones but have internet so if you actually want to reach me, send a damn email. If it makes you feel better to call people old farts, go ahead, but I’m betting your also some of the people flabbergasted that you’re not the CEO yet or don’t get the prime accounts to handle. It’s not about you.

NP here - you do sound old.

Plus they have text to voicemail now for landlines.