Share you text etiquette suggestions

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand. How are these people you’re “not ready to take it to that level” with get you number if you didn’t give it to them and have your conversation about how you prefer to be contacted at that time?

Personally I would rather have a text than have someone call me any day and if it’s just a quick question, again, I’d rather text than email. Much less effort to respond.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather have email over text if you don't need me now.

[Anonymous]

I'm fed up with people who get angry over my lack of immediate response to texts. I don't keep my phone on my body when I'm at home. I leave it inside when I'm out in the yard. I don't interrupt conversations or activities and I dont read or respond to texts when I'm driving. One of my dc's friend's mother would get her dc to text my dc if I didn't responde to her text immediately. I was outside for 5 minutes getting my mail.

Also texts aren't as easily searchable as email. I hate having to scroll thru a months worth of texts to find the picture someone texted me. If the issue is important or is information that needs to be saved, it should be in an email.

I agree with pp, texting is best for short communication.

[Anonymous]

I dont know how many times I've dealt with someone who has my number because we talked and then sends me texts meant for someone else because they are confused by their contacts. I've just been through a complete clusterf with a neighbor who thought I was someone else and kept inviting me to things. He invited me to a birthday party gathering and I didn't realize he meant it for someone else. This kind of crap rarely happened in email. I let the guy know I'm not who he thinks and he's still occassionally sending me texts related to his business with this other person.

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Anonymous wrote:Op- if you don’t want to be texted then say something to the person. Why does everyone get offended these days? You have rules for texting- ok. It’s strange, but ok. Just communicate that.
& I wouldn’t call it etiquette. You get your panties in a knot about texts- must folks don’t. Your rules are not SOP

Also, I’ll add unless I’m your subordinate I’ll reach out to you any damned way I please.

You are that annoying coworker who texts with a bunch of abbreviations and doesn't get why nobody wants to receive your texts. One of non-subordinates just got in trouble with her superiors because so many people were offended by her strange and rude texts. She was texting responses which should have been handled appropriately in person. Then she came sobbing to my office (I was not one who complained) and couldn't understand why people were so mean. It is was not a generational thing. Her fellow millenials found her texts obnoxious. It was a social skills issues.

Try again. I don’t text coworkers. But I also don’t walk on egg shells because someone has ‘text etiquette ’ rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm fed up with people who get angry over my lack of immediate response to texts. I don't keep my phone on my body when I'm at home. I leave it inside when I'm out in the yard. I don't interrupt conversations or activities and I dont read or respond to texts when I'm driving. One of my dc's friend's mother would get her dc to text my dc if I didn't responde to her text immediately. I was outside for 5 minutes getting my mail.

Also texts aren't as easily searchable as email. I hate having to scroll thru a months worth of texts to find the picture someone texted me. If the issue is important or is information that needs to be saved, it should be in an email.

I agree with pp, texting is best for short communication.

This. Some people chose text because they want an immediate response. It is obnoxious. My phone is not permanently attached to me. I agree I hate having to scroll through texts. Anything important should be on email where I can find it in under a minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont know how many times I've dealt with someone who has my number because we talked and then sends me texts meant for someone else because they are confused by their contacts. I've just been through a complete clusterf with a neighbor who thought I was someone else and kept inviting me to things. He invited me to a birthday party gathering and I didn't realize he meant it for someone else. This kind of crap rarely happened in email. I let the guy know I'm not who he thinks and he's still occassionally sending me texts related to his business with this other person.

I've had something similar happen and I get a random text from someone I don't know several times a month.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think some people need a guide to texting. I remember back when email was just becoming big people made all sorts of mistakes like putting messages in all caps (yelling) or CCing the whole world with back and forth convos. Here are my texting suggestions for the clueless. Please add yours.

1. Don't assume I want a text from you if we have not discussed taking it to that level.
I personally only text with my husband occasionally and my close friends text if it's urgent. Otherwise I prefer email. I find it strange when people I am not close to text me without asking me if it's OK. Some of them become downright obsessive with the texting until I have to actually request that the person use email. If we are not close I don't want my phone beeping at me because of you.

2. Sign your name to your text if we are not close
I only know phone numbers of my inner circle. If you aren't part of that and you text without putting your name I will wonder who texted me and I will not take the time to phone number match.

Your first suggestion is extraordinarily strange. You're not having sex with the person, s/hes just communication in the most efficient way. Chill, grandma.

It's polite to ask people how they want to be contacted. it is rude to assume you are a person someone wants a notification from. Even worse if it is the person's work cell. I never get someone's phone number or email without first even asking if they want to be contacted. The people who just assume they can text you are the same ones who get bent out of shape if you don't respond ASAP.

It is worse with kids where my nephew got texted 12 times by a "friend" who wanted to hang out. He finally got back to the friend "no thanks." Would you call someone's phone 12 times and leave 12 messages on the answering machine?

You know you can turn off notifications, right?

There is a glitch in this function.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a boss, don't text your subordinates when they are on vacation unless it is a major emergency.

You're fired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand. How are these people you’re “not ready to take it to that level” with get you number if you didn’t give it to them and have your conversation about how you prefer to be contacted at that time?

Personally I would rather have a text than have someone call me any day and if it’s just a quick question, again, I’d rather text than email. Much less effort to respond.

I think "take it to that level" refers to people who not only text you, but expect an immediate response and then the bother you with more texts. Annoying people find new ways to be annoying. If they do that on email you can eventually block them or you just roll your eyes, but with text your phone notifies you.

[Anonymous]

I'm 54 and I agree with OP completely. Texting is intrusive. If you want to communicate with me asynchronously, then send an email. And use punctuation and English words.

[Anonymous]

Do not “like” and “love” every photo and text in the group chat when some people are not using iMessage. All of us get a text saying Larlo liked a photo and we don’t even know which one it was. No need to “like” anything in group chats. Older family members love doing this in family group chats that go on and on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok serious question - is it rude to end a text in a Period?

No.

Yes

If you end your text with a period it can for sure be seen as rude. Like if I text "K." That is basically F you.

If you are just writing a normal sentence then punctuation makes you seem like an old fart

I would never text “K” or “F you.” And yes, I use punctuation.

Is everyone here in middle school?

I'm not in middle school. And when I use just "K." Its either to my DH if he's made me mad or to a colleague who has just texted not during the work day that they are going to dump a bunch of work on me the following work day.

[Anonymous]

Where does one learn things like "K." means "FU"?

[Anonymous]

I love texting. So many awkward phone calls avoided!