I understand why people cheat

[Anonymous]

so you typically dont wear you wedding band when out?

this sounds stupid, force, and/or fake.

did you have the "i just got in a fight with my wife" glow on you at the bar?

you just walk into an establishment after a fight and you suddenly wanted by women? at no other time when you are out during work, coming home, lunch, work dinner, anything are you hit on. its only when this fight occurs that you are the man women want to be with?

cool story man. i wish i was you.

im going to fight with my wife tonight, go to a bar, and post minute by minute updates on DCUM. keep this thread active so it stays at the top until tonight.

[Anonymous]

OP ... which bar did you go ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, we have a marriage counselor and will see him in about a week

I don't want to break up our family

I intentionally wore my wedding ring out to try to avoid letting things progress too far and tempting myself too much

so you went out after a fight, left your wife and baby at home, intentionally knowing that you were going to flirt with women AND you even considered leaving your wedding ring off?

your marriage is either already dead, dead, dead; or you're just a sleazy cheater by nature.

no, most men do not cope with a fight with their wife when they have a small baby at home by purposefully going out to bars to flirt with women RIGHT up to the edge. you need to own your behavior and see it for what it is.

He's using the fight and his wife for his lack of coping skills. EVERYONE fights.

OP you have problems. You chose to have a baby fairly recently so imo you need to honor your commitment to your child more than anything. You both should have gotten your acts together when you decided to get married and have children.

Learn how to talk, and compromise. If you both need to talk to someone go that route too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife is an ice cold bitch and I am out at a bar without her after our fight

First thing that happened once I entered was that I struck up a conversation with a pretty woman who is just as impressed by my appearance as I am by hers

Not sure I would go through with all the lies and sneakiness that would be required for an ongoing affair, but I absolutely would rather kiss and have sex with this woman than my own wife

I (wisely?) declined to exchange contact info but I'm still thinking about her

Why did you marry this "ice cold bitch?" You should have stayed single so you can go to bars and screw around to your heart's content. Some men are just not marriage material - maybe you're one of those men?

people change over years. some better some...

Having a baby changes people too. Pregnancy, hormones, nursing, sleepless nights - it all has an effect. Problem is that certain people don't take this into account before choosing to reproduce with someone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so you typically dont wear you wedding band when out?

this sounds stupid, force, and/or fake.

did you have the "i just got in a fight with my wife" glow on you at the bar?

you just walk into an establishment after a fight and you suddenly wanted by women? at no other time when you are out during work, coming home, lunch, work dinner, anything are you hit on. its only when this fight occurs that you are the man women want to be with?

cool story man. i wish i was you.

im going to fight with my wife tonight, go to a bar, and post minute by minute updates on DCUM. keep this thread active so it stays at the top until tonight.

LOL

Yes probably all fake.

Either way if she goes to the bar picking up men it's probably best to stay away from that. Also, it's fairly common the woman would start calling your wife or doing other things. I've seen that, it doesn't end well.

[Anonymous]

I think the op is a troll but if not somewhere in his lizard brain he felt guilty enough to post on dcum while at a bar picking up women. That’s something!

[Anonymous]

Change the title to “I understand why I want to cheat”, don’t justify your poor behavior by saying other people do it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the op is a troll but if not somewhere in his lizard brain he felt guilty enough to post on dcum while at a bar picking up women. That’s something!

I think OP is immature

[Anonymous]

Cheating is immature and a bad way of coping with things. It also makes you feel alive, amazing, and wanted again. It's the best thing that can happen to you, and the worst thing, as well. It makes you glow, it makes you glower. It feels GOOD especially in contrast to the other shit going on in your life. And you feel like shit, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the op is a troll but if not somewhere in his lizard brain he felt guilty enough to post on dcum while at a bar picking up women. That’s something!

I think OP is immature

well OP is admin so...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Amazing how the DCUM harpies know nothing about the wife, but they are quick to cast the OP as wrong. You rock OP. Don’t let her get away with her sh*t or you’ll have to live that way for the rest of your life.

DCUM harpies are aware that cheating is wrong.

DCUM harpies have poor reading comprehension. He didn’t cheat.

[Anonymous]

Get a divorce. Your wife will find someone who loves her and a new Dad for your child. You'll get a huge child support bill each month. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP ... which bar did you go ...

Uh oh ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, we have a marriage counselor and will see him in about a week

I don't want to break up our family

I intentionally wore my wedding ring out to try to avoid letting things progress too far and tempting myself too much

It sounds like you’re one foot out of the marriage. The reason you didn’t cheat is not because you love your wife or want to save the family, you didn’t cheat because you don’t want to be that “guy”. Do this enough, meaning leaving your wife with the baby after a fight, going to bars and flirting with women who clearly aren’t exhausted from work+house+baby+ issues w/ husband that you’ll become heartless and numb to the whole thing and cheating will sound like a good idea. It already does!

Real men don’t put themselves in this situation. Go for a run, meditate, do whatever but don’t put yourself in a situation where you could end up cheating and blaming your wife for it. Be a men and act like one!

x100000

[Anonymous]

I bet your "cold" wife now understands why people cheat, too.

Must be nice - get in an argument with your wife, but instead of talking it out like adults and staying home to care for your child, bail on both wife and child to go drink and flirt at a bar. And actually want credit for wearing your wedding band and not taking a flirtation any further! Your poor wife...