Trading off sleeping in on weekends

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband always has done the AM shift. I sleep as late as I want..noon, later...he doesn't mind.

You sound lazy. Sleeping till noon with kids. Great example for being a productive parent.

PP, you sound jealous. That’s not a good look.

Actually, sleeping till noon is a waste of a day.

Different strokes for different folks.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t matter OP. You woke him up and that’s not nice.

Unless I had set a time, I wouldn’t wake him up before 9. That was rude.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I’d also consider 8 sleeping in. That said, I’d talk to DH and see what he wants. If he wants 9 or 10am once a week, I’d do that and also want my 9-10am day in return.

My DH says I could sleep longer than 8, but when he gets up he is noisy and our house is small enough that even if they go play in another room I get woken up and can’t go back to sleep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:till he wakes up, if that is 11am that's fine. same for me.

Same for us. Seriously, a kid can wait for pancakes.

I think 12 would be ok but I’d want to know that. I’d hate to be waiting around with DS downstairs wondering if and when to make breakfast or whether we need to wait until DH gets up to go out and eat together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:7:30 is sleeping in for us. No way I'd let my husband sleep in till 11 leaving me to attend to two young children solo.

The concept is that you get to do that too the next day though. I have an expectation that both I or my husband could handle both kids solo at any time if need be.

Personally a kid free morning to myself is 100% worth dealing with the kids solo for a morning.

[Anonymous]

Team DH. If it’s his turn to sleep in you don’t get to dictate what the wake up time is unless you specifically discussed it beforehand. You sound like a jerk. I hope he wakes you up early for no reason next time it’s your turn.

[Anonymous]

Man, this thread really makes me appreciate DH!!! I think I would lose it if he never woke up with the kids, or couldn’t occasionally handle both at once

[Anonymous]

Dd wakes at 7, sometimes plays happily in her crib until 7:30ish. One of us goes downstairs with her and the other sleeps a bit longer and/or has time to shower and dress and putter around in peace. Other parent is generally downstairs by 8:30, 9am at the latest. But if something comes up then sleep ends. We’ll have our second in a couple months and if my dd is crying for food and I’m feeding the baby and can’t get it then I’d be pretty pissed if my husband didn’t get up to help her. (And maybe it’s mom guilt but I couldn’t stay asleep if I heard him struggling and dd upset so it goes both ways.)

[Anonymous]

Hey OP. I've been thinking about this thread all day, I was team DH in a previous post. I just realized your timeline.

7am - Wake up with the children
8:30am - Feeding the baby and unable to make pancakes

What happened in the 90 minutes between 7 and 9:30? Did you not make the kid breakfast while you were free?

I get up with my two kids every other day (1 and 3) and there is a schedule.

1) Diapers and pull ups are changed/swapped for underwear
2) Dogs are fed and let out
3) Children are given breakfast
4) I make coffee and eat breakfast

By the time I've been up for 35 minutes I'm already on step 4. You're up for an hour and a half and haven't gotten around to feeding both children, what gives?

[Anonymous]

Sleep deprivation take such a toll on your family life...sorry this has been rough.

For us sleeping in is 9ish but one kid wakes up around 7:45 and can read by himself for a while (5 year old) and the other often sleeps til 8, 8:30. If the break is worth it for you then maybe plan ahead — a set of activities that can occupy 3 year old, make and freeze pancakes ahead of time. In our family the one who sleeps in does not get a nap during nap time and the other one does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah I’d also consider 8 sleeping in. That said, I’d talk to DH and see what he wants. If he wants 9 or 10am once a week, I’d do that and also want my 9-10am day in return.

My DH says I could sleep longer than 8, but when he gets up he is noisy and our house is small enough that even if they go play in another room I get woken up and can’t go back to sleep.

Silicone ear plugs and a box fan in the hall outside your room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:till he wakes up, if that is 11am that's fine. same for me.

Same.

Another vote for this.

[Anonymous]

Usually 8:30 or so unless one of has a hangover or something

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:till he wakes up, if that is 11am that's fine. same for me.

Same.

Another vote for this.

Or if you feel that's unfair since you naturally wake up earlier, just agree you take turns giving the other time off until 10 or 11 or whatever time he feels the need to sleep in to. DH is not a morning person and has a longer commute during the week. He's genuinely tired and it makes him feel happier and healthier to sleep until 10 on Saturdays, 9:30 on Sundays (he handles a kid's activity that morning). I am a morning person, so I don't begrudge him that, at least not most of the time. He'll handle things when I'm tired at night so it works out. There are different ways of working out a system that feels more fair to you. But I agree, give him the one morning to sleep in as he likes.

[Anonymous]

interesting