I'm assuming the units for these would be the millibeej and the decicoitus? |
Sounds like you have bigger problems than money. |
I assumed that you were happy to have your postnup so you must not be the bread winning spouse. We had been talking about SAHMs but, of course, if you are a SAHD with this postnup, my apologies. You did not strike me as the spouse who would have the hammer of financial doom come crashing down on your head in the event of a divorce. What these postnups don't factor in seems to be the loss of the SAH spouse's contributions to a bread winner who must now shoulder 100% of the duties in his own home, including the extra costs of childcare and simply not being available to his company when it's his turn to take the kid to the orthodontist hire someone else to do it. |
Only if she has money to pay a lawyer to make sure she gets her share. |
You are so hobbled by sexism that you seem literally incapable of imagining the situation I am in. I am very happy to have the postnup, I am the breadwinning spouse, and I am the wife. Marriage is a contract. If for whatever reason the legally evolved terms of that contract in your state aren't right for your marriage, postnups adjust the contract. You seem to be under the impression that they contain some kind of blanket terms that strongly favor one party over the other; that's inaccurate. |
She worked for 20 years. She has her own money. |
I could really care less if you are the man or the woman in this business deal. As the breadwinner, the only way that you are this happy with your postnup is if you come out ahead with it and it provides you with an easy out. FWIW, the postnup has to be fair in order for it to be valid. Marriage is a personal commitment. Both spouses can choose to end it at any time. |
I don't think of my relationship with my husband as adversarial. So, no. |
Obviously, I can't possibly know the details of your own personal relationship with your husband or why you would feel the need to spell the terms out of a divorce now. I understand that people do it. But it seems to me that the terms of a postnup that you agree to and sign 1 year after you are married is no longer going to be appropriate 10 or 20 years down the road. I would consider that document to be valid for maybe 3 years. |
eh post nups often aren't enforceable anyway
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Exactly. |
Since you can’t imagine the circumstances and don’t really know how and why the documents might exist, why not stop offering opinions now? |
You are the one who threw this out there for discussion. Clearly you aren't about to provide any details to back up your claims as to why your postnup was a good idea. That's fine. |
Wrong - signed a divorce lawyer (VA has a specific law allowing them, in fact) |
This is not correct. An experienced domestic relations attorney will prepare one that will be valid forever and apply even after circumstances change. It’s no different from how a prenup is valid 10 years later. |