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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need a postnup and the fact that you think he would not consider one points to the problem here. The guy cannot tolerate a direct conversation about how doing this is going to make you vulnerable. That sucks. [/quote]

WTF is a "postnup" after 20 years of marriage?

You sound paranoid. Are you married?[/quote]

Yes. Happily. And we have a postnup, negotiated after 10 years.

You sound like someone who doesn't really know what postnups are for. [/quote]

If your dh divorces you and then suddenly he stops bringing in the big bucks, maybe retires early...what would happen to your postnup?  [/quote]

I cannot answer your question, which is based on incorrect, and sexist, assumptions about my situation.

(Are you asking a question or this rhetorical? The parties to the postnup agree to what they want in it. If they want it to address a situation like the one you raise, it does. If not, it does not.)[/quote]

I assumed that you were happy to have your postnup so you must not be the bread winning spouse.  We had been talking about SAHMs but, of course, if you are a SAHD with this postnup, my apologies.

You did not strike me as the spouse who would have the hammer of financial doom come crashing down on your head in the event of a divorce.  What these postnups don't factor in seems to be the loss of the SAH spouse's contributions to a bread winner who must now shoulder 100% of the duties in his own home, including the extra costs of childcare and simply not being available to his company when it's his turn to take the kid to the orthodontist hire someone else to do it.[/quote]

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