Child still misses former nanny

[Anonymous]

C'mon guys... This is obviously a nanny troll. The way she won't say why she didn't like the nanny and the bit about the 3 year old wanting to see her nanny "more than anything else in the world" 6 months later. No f'ing way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:C'mon guys... This is obviously a nanny troll. The way she won't say why she didn't like the nanny and the bit about the 3 year old wanting to see her nanny "more than anything else in the world" 6 months later. No f'ing way.

Not nanny and not a troll. My mother asked her what she wished for more than anything else in the world and my daughter said for her nanny to come back.


Update: I asked the former nanny to visit and she’s come over three times since I first posted. It’s all good.

[Anonymous]

This is just ridiculous, I’m sorry. Nanny loves your child and child loves nanny. It is so much an advantage to your child to have a loving relationship like this in her life. I can’t believe you accepted this person’s help for three years and allowed your daughter’s heart to become attached, only to cut it off completely. That is cold, and it will hurt your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't seem to realize that the nanny was one of your child's strongest attachments. From the child's perspective it is like one of her 3 parents just disappeared one day and never came back. She had only positive associations and positive emotions and a secure attachment with this person.

You also have a 3-4 year old who already knows she can't come to you about this or how she feels and so goes to other people. You never spoke again of her and obviously have negative feelings that your child has picked up on.

I think since you have gone six months, I would stay no contact. I think it was the wrong decision in the first place but bringing her back to see your child, only to them later decide again you don't want them having contact is going to be more damaging to your child.

Your child can't comprehend what she or the nanny did to warrant this alienation. Your child may be worried it was her or something she did or said or what nanny is dead etc. Who knows what anxiety this has caused for your child.

+1 a terrible parenting decision

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just ridiculous, I’m sorry. Nanny loves your child and child loves nanny. It is so much an advantage to your child to have a loving relationship like this in her life. I can’t believe you accepted this person’s help for three years and allowed your daughter’s heart to become attached, only to cut it off completely. That is cold, and it will hurt your daughter.

+100 unbelievable cold

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just ridiculous, I’m sorry. Nanny loves your child and child loves nanny. It is so much an advantage to your child to have a loving relationship like this in her life. I can’t believe you accepted this person’s help for three years and allowed your daughter’s heart to become attached, only to cut it off completely. That is cold, and it will hurt your daughter.

+100 unbelievable cold

I agree - it is hateful.