Give her a pass because of wedding?

[Anonymous]

I would give her a pass. People do crazy things on all sides during all aspects of a wedding - as the bride/groom, as family members, and as guests. You'll know soon enough if it is a pattern.

[Anonymous]

I personally wouldn’t have gone. That was your first mistake. I would have ordered the dress in two sizes from Nordstrom, and returned the one that didn’t fit. I would have sent pictures and made any alterations. I would never have driven 1.5 hours with my kids. If she didn’t like that, she would be welcome to meet me at a closer to me Nordstrom.

I don’t cater to Bridezilla BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Yes and no, respectively. More importantly, please remember that this is a person with lots of free time, who cannot possibly fathom how precious time becomes later in life when kids are involved. Personally, I would never, ever, have agreed to driving for so long to try on dresses, and I only have two kids and stay home! My time is also precious

On the plus side, you should be happy you were done that quickly.

People without kids don't necessarily have "lots of free time." I understand modern parents truly believe they are busier than anyone else has ever been in the history of the world but many people without kids have long days full of things they don't necessarily want to be doing (I assume parents actually wanted to be parents?), including working long hours, take care of aging parents, helping out with other family, and other responsibilities.

The people I know always posting from the coffee shop or yoga studio are SAHMs of one kid or SAHM with elementary kids. They seem to not be that busy at all despite their #busymom hashtags.

[Anonymous]

You have gotten there and spent three hours listening to the other mothers and girls argue over what's the right dress. That would have been a s---t show. She did you a big favor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yes and no, respectively. More importantly, please remember that this is a person with lots of free time, who cannot possibly fathom how precious time becomes later in life when kids are involved. Personally, I would never, ever, have agreed to driving for so long to try on dresses, and I only have two kids and stay home! My time is also precious

On the plus side, you should be happy you were done that quickly.

People without kids don't necessarily have "lots of free time." I understand modern parents truly believe they are busier than anyone else has ever been in the history of the world but many people without kids have long days full of things they don't necessarily want to be doing (I assume parents actually wanted to be parents?), including working long hours, take care of aging parents, helping out with other family, and other responsibilities.

The people I know always posting from the coffee shop or yoga studio are SAHMs of one kid or SAHM with elementary kids. They seem to not be that busy at all despite their #busymom hashtags.

Parents do all that PLUS taking care of kids, who are incredibly demanding of our time and energy when they're little. Elementary kids are vastly different than having a toddler and an infant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 3 young kids and work full-time. I just say this because I don’t have tons of free time and energy. My daughter is a flower girl in BIL’s wedding. His fiancée asked us to go shopping for flower girl dresses with the other flower girl and her mom. Sounded like a fun afternoon and we drove the 1.5 hours to her chosen mall. We got there and she said she had actually already chosen a dress. The girls tried it on and we bought them. Done in a half hour. This is a dress we could have easily bought online and tried on at home. I spent 3 hours driving today to try on a flower girl dress. I’m pretty annoyed. Thought it would be a nice bonding experience for DD and her new aunt, but it wasn’t. Does everyone go a little nutty before their wedding? Should I not take this as a sign that BIL’s fiancée is a bit self-centered?

Where were the childrens' father? Couldn't he take the baby for a few hours so you only had flower girl with you?

[Anonymous]

The bride was thoughtless. She should have planned on having lunch with you since you were driving to her location.

She will get it one day when she has kids -- I'm pretty sure all of us have had those humbling moments post-kids.

[Anonymous]

Sucks but you made an assumption without communicating your wants and needs, so she failed to read your mind. She gets a pass.

[Anonymous]

If working FT and having kids overwhelms you so much that you can't manage a 3 hour drive for a WEDDING related thing -- honestly maybe switch to part time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If working FT and having kids overwhelms you so much that you can't manage a 3 hour drive for a WEDDING related thing -- honestly maybe switch to part time.

Hey there, Bridezilla! You are allowed to spend as much of your own time as you want planning Your Special Day. But don't take up other people's time with a misrepresented promise of fun that turns out to be nothing more than a needlessly long errand.

Also, +whatever to all the people who think even someone who doesn't have kids should be able to figure out that three hours of driving to go [not] shopping with kids is likely to be a drag unless you can do something to make the experience worth it.

[Anonymous]

That’s BS. If I asked my flower girls to drive 1.5hrs for a dress, I would have taken them and their moms to lunch and something age appropriate like American Girl store or for pedicures. Basically make a little bonding day if it.

[Anonymous]

If this is such struggle maybe working part time would be a better balance.

Oh wait. You are money hungry.

[Anonymous]

People, just get married at city hall.

[Anonymous]

Why do you all live a life so close to the edge? Sad.