Tell me about your love language

[Anonymous]

When my husband and I fight he is terrible with apologies but will frequently polish off some home project on the procrastination list. Or build something for us. Took me awhile to figure out that that was the apology.

[Anonymous]

I'm having a hard time doing the quiz, because I have a DH and an AP and I like doing different things with each of them ...

[Anonymous]

Touch. Acts of service.

Gifts are halfway there. But I’m also one to say ‘no gifts this valentines’ Moreso than my husband.

^i just think *when* I am given a gift, it makes me feel really loved. Simple, infrequent gifts are awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I took a quiz a while back and we are both Physical Touch. We scored very similarly on the quiz - lowest for both of us was Gifts - neither of us care about that. His second highest was Words of Affirmation while mine was Quality Time.

You must have a lot of sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's your love language? What things does your spouse do that make feel loved?

DH and I are both service oriented. It really helps to have the same love language. We were both married previously to people who didn’t value receiving or giving back.

[Anonymous]

Words of affirmation and physical touch.

-Woman

[Anonymous]

"Acts of Service "= getting DH to do what you want?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Acts of Service "= getting DH to do what you want?

No, it's anyone (not just husbands) devoting their time and effort to do something that makes you feel loved, however small. When my boyfriend takes off his jacket in the cold and hands it to me, I immediately start planning our bedroom activities later that eve.

We clearly speak each other's languages.

[Anonymous]

Mine is words of affirmation, DH is physical touch.

I thought this was basically the cause of all male female tension, interesting to see some women here also have physical touch, lucky you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine is words of affirmation, DH is physical touch.

I thought this was basically the cause of all male female tension, interesting to see some women here also have physical touch, lucky you

Lucky him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is words of affirmation, DH is physical touch.

I thought this was basically the cause of all male female tension, interesting to see some women here also have physical touch, lucky you

Lucky him

though I want to repeat what a PP pointed out.

Wanting to receive more love in the form of physical touch does not necessarily mean wanting more sex. My husband would like to have more sex (and so would I, actually), but he never gives me any loving physical touches outside the context of wanting to initiate sex. It is important for me to feel loved and desired in order for me to feel like having sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is words of affirmation, DH is physical touch.

I thought this was basically the cause of all male female tension, interesting to see some women here also have physical touch, lucky you

Lucky him

though I want to repeat what a PP pointed out.

Wanting to receive more love in the form of physical touch does not necessarily mean wanting more sex. My husband would like to have more sex (and so would I, actually), but he never gives me any loving physical touches outside the context of wanting to initiate sex. It is important for me to feel loved and desired in order for me to feel like having sex.

Explain this to him. This is counterintuitive for many men. When we see you tired, stressed, overworked we feel like we should leave you be if we don't really want/need you physically. This is what I thought, then my wife told me exactly what you wrote and now we have more, hotter sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is words of affirmation, DH is physical touch.

I thought this was basically the cause of all male female tension, interesting to see some women here also have physical touch, lucky you

Lucky him

though I want to repeat what a PP pointed out.

Wanting to receive more love in the form of physical touch does not necessarily mean wanting more sex. My husband would like to have more sex (and so would I, actually), but he never gives me any loving physical touches outside the context of wanting to initiate sex. It is important for me to feel loved and desired in order for me to feel like having sex.

Wow this is exactly where DH and I are - I want more sex & more intimacy through out the day. I suspect he wants more sex also, but I dont want to initiate if he hasnt physically expressed any desire other than slapping my bum on the way to the bedroom (though dont get me wrong, I enjoy the bum slap too haha)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is words of affirmation, DH is physical touch.

I thought this was basically the cause of all male female tension, interesting to see some women here also have physical touch, lucky you

Lucky him

though I want to repeat what a PP pointed out.

Wanting to receive more love in the form of physical touch does not necessarily mean wanting more sex. My husband would like to have more sex (and so would I, actually), but he never gives me any loving physical touches outside the context of wanting to initiate sex. It is important for me to feel loved and desired in order for me to feel like having sex.

So what exactly are YOU doing to stoke the sex fires?

[Anonymous]

Mine is physical touch. Pretty sure my wife’s is sleep.