Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SAHM of 3.5 and 1.5 year-old boys. My husband works extremely long hours so during the week is often just the boys and I from wake up to bedtime. And the stress of this responsibility is really beginning to really wear on me. Going back to work isn’t an option right now. Please tell me what helped you overcome this horrible anxiety.
Are your kids special needs? You keep them alive, do some chores, and are accountable to no one. What is stress, is your DH a ‘dinner and martinis’ at door and wants hgtv house?
I would minimize stuff ( less to clean), makes meals simple, and take liberal walks and naps.
OP here no my kids are just extremely high energy and the littlest is the reason for every child safety device known to man. 3.5 year old is in school only twice a week for a half day but will go 4 half days next year. For now I’m just exhausted. DH is pretty understanding. I’m a terrible cook and my house is almost always a disaster so no stepford wife here. I really don’t know why I’m failing so much at this, especially when it’s a breeze for my friends. Thank you for the recs.
You’re not failing, nor is it a breeze, and PP was not being very understanding in that first paragraph.
It’s not just “keeping them alive.” DS is 2.5 and is an absolute maniac. I told him today that until he can learn to not run out into the street, he will need to ride in the stroller for every car-to-destination occasion. DD was and can still be emotionally taxing, but never pulled that ish! And you have two high energy boys!
I don’t know if you can afford quality help, but having someone to keep the kids entertained and help you around the house once or twice weekly while you invest in some kind of self-care would be great. Galley and Territory are food delivery services that provide healthy, interesting meals that only require heating. Other than that, we keep meals very simple: quesadillas, sandwiches, soups, etc. with a veggie and cut apples. Yogurt if all else fails. We have a lightweight cordless vacuum and keep things tidy and relatively clean, and have a cleaner come every other week to tie up the loose ends. I prefer not to outsource laundry, so I listen to podcasts or watch tv as I deal with clothes. Consider a community-rich preschool, maybe a co op or other type of school where parents are heavily involved. Someone recommended Zoloft. That did not work for me, but it could be a consideration along with talk therapy.
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