Breaking it with the AP

[Anonymous]

To have a clean break change your number and job. There has to be no doubt you want to end the relationship with AP. You sound that maybe you will be enticed to do something if he is still in the picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He might be relieved. I was.

Did you pretend to be hurt by her ending it?

I acted just a little bit hurt.

Neither of you tried to restart the affair? How long was the affair?

[Anonymous]

She cannot “ghost” him since they apparently work in the same place.

To OP: ->> I would just let him know directly your plans to work on your marriage + that you must end things.

Perhaps you can ask your boss to be removed from working side-by-side w/him or better yet - look for another job.
Caveat: Either of these actions will generate suspicion so think of a good way ahead of time to deflect this.

And pray that this guy is normal.
That he won’t attempt to blackmail you or call out the affair publicly.
Most of all, pray that he doesn’t tell your hubby.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She cannot “ghost” him since they apparently work in the same place.

To OP: ->> I would just let him know directly your plans to work on your marriage + that you must end things.

Perhaps you can ask your boss to be removed from working side-by-side w/him or better yet - look for another job.
Caveat: Either of these actions will generate suspicion so think of a good way ahead of time to deflect this.

And pray that this guy is normal.
That he won’t attempt to blackmail you or call out the affair publicly.
Most of all, pray that he doesn’t tell your hubby.

Good luck!

+100.

OP - did you end the affair yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He might be relieved. I was.

Did you pretend to be hurt by her ending it?

I acted just a little bit hurt.

Neither of you tried to restart the affair? How long was the affair?

No, not yet. Over three years. She is a lot younger (15 years) and really needs to be serious about finding a husband if she wants children, which is one of the reasons I was relieved.

[Anonymous]

Everyone cheats in some form... From marriage, to diet, to exercise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone cheats in some form... From marriage, to diet, to exercise.

Sneaking a cupcake is not like sleeping with your co-worker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He might be relieved. I was.

Did you pretend to be hurt by her ending it?

I acted just a little bit hurt.

Neither of you tried to restart the affair? How long was the affair?

No, not yet. Over three years. She is a lot younger (15 years) and really needs to be serious about finding a husband if she wants children, which is one of the reasons I was relieved.

So you may start it up again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He might be relieved. I was.

Did you pretend to be hurt by her ending it?

I acted just a little bit hurt.

Neither of you tried to restart the affair? How long was the affair?

No, not yet. Over three years. She is a lot younger (15 years) and really needs to be serious about finding a husband if she wants children, which is one of the reasons I was relieved.

So you may start it up again?

I may try, but right now I am in a better relationship (got divorced, then found an amazing woman), and she might be in a relationship now. We are still in touch, and she was low maintenance and so much fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good luck OP.

I recommend telling him it is over, and then blocking him. Get a new job. And work your ass off on your marriage.

This. Add counseling to your plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone cheats in some form... From marriage, to diet, to exercise.

Sneaking a cupcake is not like sleeping with your co-worker.

It's more delicious for one.

[Anonymous]

Send her a holiday card with an anal sex plea. The more obvious, the better.