How can I blow MIL out of the water?

[Anonymous]

Tell your husband to keep his mother's wine glass full from the minute she enters the front door right through dessert. She will be so smashed that she will make a fool of herself.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all the posts but I have to say that I don't think you'll be as successful as you want until you realize that your guests are the heart of your success. If you want your event to be the best then you need to keep their needs and preferences in mind. Otherwise you'll go too far in any number of directions and it will feel contrived and your guests will feel awkward. So start thinking about what Aunt Larla really responds to and how Uncle Bubba likes his beer, and you'll start to get to the "best." It is a moving target.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Blow her out of the water by being gracious, friendly and unassuming. Welcome your guests with a big hug and a “I’m so happy we’re able to host you this year. Make yourselves comfortable and enjoy the evening.” Have a nice but easy dinner so you can enjoy company. I love setting out a coffee/cocoa station and desserts on my dining room sideboard (or kitchen counter) so people can pick at it and relax. You WILL win when everyone is happy.

And if she critizes any more ahead of time simply say “Oh I’m sorry, Betty! Have you changed your mind about hosting? You are welcome to take it back if you want and I can use my ideas hosting a different group another night.” That forces her to admit she’s not in charge.

This is all key!