Piggybacking on previous topic--do you notice people's rings?

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Anonymous wrote:This is exactly what I despise - women blaming other women out of spite and jealousy. The man is the one who purchases the ring and at least in my case and many many of my friends and family, is the one who chooses the ring without knowledge or input from the soon to be fiancee. Yet all of you are blaming the fiancee/wife for having a big ring. Why? With PP's story, I can understand in that particular case if someone is demanding a ring of a certain size. I agree that's tacky, but to judge people you don't know based on their ring size? My brother just bought a diamond for his now fiancee a month ago and it's huge and stunning. My future SIL never knew about it or demanded anything and was stunned when she got it. It was the amount of money he wanted to spend and that is his business.

I bought my own engagement ring. DH didn't buy me one, and I wanted one, so when we'd been married for a few years I went out and bought one. It is beautiful and exactly what I wanted.

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If it's really large, it looks like a costume jewlery, like cubic zirconia. I like cz because it adds a nice sparkle without costing a fortune.

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I look when I am not sure if someone is married. And I notice when a ring is particularly nice.

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Anonymous wrote:And if so, what do you think? I inherited a fairly large ring (2.5 carat stone) and b/c DH didn't have to buy an engagement ring, he splurged on a 3-carat eternity band for my wedding ring. We are not rich by any means, we drive older inexpensive cars, and I buy most of my clothes at Target and Old Navy. I always wonder what other people think when they see my ring, if they think anything at all. I've found that ever since I have it I tend to notice other people's rings a lot.

I don't think I'd notice. But then again I use a *gasp* Vera Bradley bag and had no idea they were ugly until DCUM told me so.

See... all this ring stuff is a little silly, but the Vera Bradley thing you should have known. It should be self-evident: homespun florals= dowdy bag.

so do you like lily pulitzer? b/c it is pretty much the same thing

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I don't notice rings unless they are on a man's pinkie.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't notice rings unless they are on a man's pinkie.

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I have a 1 carat engagement ring. My husband chose it all on his own without any of my input. He chose a very high quality (cut, color, clarity) diamond over carat size. If I had given him my input, i might have upped the carat in lieu of the other c's, but it was his gift to me and the moment he gave it to me it was the only ring I could have ever dreamed of getting. I knew he was proposing, but I told him that I didn't need a ring at all! I was surprised that he bought a ring and it is just perfect for me. Sometimes I do notice rings because one of my "friends" remarked that she always wonders about guys who buy "tiny, one carat rings." I guess I never realized before then that 1 carat was small. The setting makes the ring and it is perfect for me. BTW, my wedding band is just a plain platinum band.

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Anonymous wrote:Hmm...I'll be honest, not always but sometimes I definitely do. And when I do see a large ring I admit I usually wonder what it's overcompensating for in the relationship. I know, harsh and looking way into it. But I guess I just don't get needing a big ring. I quickly try to remind myself that jewelry to some people is a bigger deal than I think of it.

You really wonder that? Mine is inherited - so would you be wondering about my relationship with my grandmother?

The inherited 2.5 carat ring is not the norm.

Ok, I am about to hijack this thread, but here it goes:

DD#1 will inherit my "push present" (not that I knew that term then). It's a pretty serious diamond, although not 2.5 carats. 2 carats, E color, GIA certified, in a platinum setting with pink side stones (you get the idea). Her birthdate is engraved on the inside of the band. I plan to give it to her on her 35th birthday (when I feel you are old enough to carry that kind of ring), unless I die earlier.

DD#2 will get my engagement ring (1 carat center stone, nice quality), wedding band, and the anniversary ring DH bought me for #5. The best use of these, because of the 6 baguettes, is probably a necklace. I had always assumed DD#1 would probably keep her ring a ring.

Based on all these comments on this thread, I am wondering whether I really should plan to give DD#1 the ring. It's a "right hand" kind of ring, as de Beers or whomever would have it. I was thinking that even if she had a different kind of life than the one DH and I have worked so hard for, it was a symbol of beauty and elegance, just like her. I would hope it would not cause her to be subject to the unkind views that people admit to having here upon seeing a ring like that.

Thoughts?

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Anonymous wrote:This is exactly what I despise - women blaming other women out of spite and jealousy. The man is the one who purchases the ring and at least in my case and many many of my friends and family, is the one who chooses the ring without knowledge or input from the soon to be fiancee. Yet all of you are blaming the fiancee/wife for having a big ring. Why? With PP's story, I can understand in that particular case if someone is demanding a ring of a certain size. I agree that's tacky, but to judge people you don't know based on their ring size? My brother just bought a diamond for his now fiancee a month ago and it's huge and stunning. My future SIL never knew about it or demanded anything and was stunned when she got it. It was the amount of money he wanted to spend and that is his business.

I bought my own engagement ring. DH didn't buy me one, and I wanted one, so when we'd been married for a few years I went out and bought one. It is beautiful and exactly what I wanted.

Um, not an engagement ring if you buy it for yourself a few years after your marriage. Do you understand the concept of engagement ring? You bought yourself a diamond ring. It's not an engagement ring.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't notice rings unless they are on a man's pinkie.

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I have a 1 carat engagement ring. My husband chose it all on his own without any of my input. He chose a very high quality (cut, color, clarity) diamond over carat size. If I had given him my input, i might have upped the carat in lieu of the other c's, but it was his gift to me and the moment he gave it to me it was the only ring I could have ever dreamed of getting. I knew he was proposing, but I told him that I didn't need a ring at all! I was surprised that he bought a ring and it is just perfect for me. Sometimes I do notice rings because one of my "friends" remarked that she always wonders about guys who buy "tiny, one carat rings." I guess I never realized before then that 1 carat was small. The setting makes the ring and it is perfect for me. BTW, my wedding band is just a plain platinum band.

A one carat stone is not small. For a very long time, one carat was considered a very large stone. Only in recent years (and in certain communities) has a one carat stone become "small". Ridiculous! Warped sense of reality if a one carat stone is small. Unbelievable how shallow, vain, greedy some people are.

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"Unbelievable how shallow, vain, greedy some people are."

AGREE COMPLETELY. Welcome to D.C., unfortunately. No wonder people are so miserable here. All that looking at each other's rings. Sums it up nicely.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't notice rings unless they are on a man's pinkie.

new poster who loves this post!

I have a 1 carat engagement ring. My husband chose it all on his own without any of my input. He chose a very high quality (cut, color, clarity) diamond over carat size. If I had given him my input, i might have upped the carat in lieu of the other c's, but it was his gift to me and the moment he gave it to me it was the only ring I could have ever dreamed of getting. I knew he was proposing, but I told him that I didn't need a ring at all! I was surprised that he bought a ring and it is just perfect for me. Sometimes I do notice rings because one of my "friends" remarked that she always wonders about guys who buy "tiny, one carat rings." I guess I never realized before then that 1 carat was small. The setting makes the ring and it is perfect for me. BTW, my wedding band is just a plain platinum band.

A one carat stone is not small. For a very long time, one carat was considered a very large stone. Only in recent years (and in certain communities) has a one carat stone become "small". Ridiculous! Warped sense of reality if a one carat stone is small. Unbelievable how shallow, vain, greedy some people are.

Yup. Agree. Where do these kind of people come from? yucky, yucky, yuck!!!

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There was an article in Newsweek a while ago about the relatively recent trend toward large diamonds. I saw it as a symbol of the pre-recession glut so many pepole were caught up in (I include myself in that). It seems like everyone I know who got engaged over 10 years ago have stones in the 1 ct range. Those who got engaged more recently tend to have the huge honkers. I wonder if the trend will taper now that every Tom and Harry can't easily afford to buy or finance such rings.

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Perhaps certain people still think they are in the Gordon Gecko "greed is good" 80's? I have news for them!

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I don't like really large diamonds on rings -- to me it makes a woman's hand look much more aged. So I only notice them when they are super-huge.

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Now we'll have to call you Mildred! Awesome!