Piggybacking on previous topic--do you notice people's rings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And if so, what do you think? I inherited a fairly large ring (2.5 carat stone) and b/c DH didn't have to buy an engagement ring, he splurged on a 3-carat eternity band for my wedding ring. We are not rich by any means, we drive older inexpensive cars, and I buy most of my clothes at Target and Old Navy. I always wonder what other people think when they see my ring, if they think anything at all. I've found that ever since I have it I tend to notice other people's rings a lot.

I don't think I'd notice. But then again I use a *gasp* Vera Bradley bag and had no idea they were ugly until DCUM told me so.

[Anonymous]

I notice sometimes, usually if the ring is particularly pretty. I might think, "Oh, that's so pretty," or "Oh, that's so big," but I don't really think too much about it beyond that. I definitely don't think the ring is a reflection on the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Like others, I tend to only notice rings if they are very big (3 carats) or very pretty. I do not assume anything about the woman/marriage, etc. If you have the money, why not? I am not a jewlery person at all, but for some reason I do love big diamond rings.

[Anonymous]

"oh it's easy. just like judging people based on their oversized SUVs and designer sunglasses and poor driving skills."

THANK YOU! Couldn't have said it better myself. SO, SO, SO TRUE!

OP must be the woman who is trying to get her husband to "upgrade" (her words, not mine) her ring - from another thread.

Every couple I know where the woman covets and/or has a lot of "stuff", they fight when they go out with other couples, so I can ONLY IMAGINE what it is like to live with them!!!! Wouldn't these poor men rather be dating?!?!?! It's much cheaper than these messes of an alleged "marriage". If the b**** wants all this "stuff" or feels so entitled, she can get her fat a** a job and buy it herself.

News flash: Marriage is not "gee honey buy me lots of stuff 'cause I think I'm all that even if you don't". Get a grip!

BTW, I'm a woman in a reciprocal relationship. What a concept!

[Anonymous]

Clearly, being a woman in a reciprocal relationship doesn't exempt you from being an idiot.

[Anonymous]

I'm also REALLY offended at the shallow people who are so quick to judge. What if I, at times, don't dress like I'm going to the office or don't wear my jewelry? What if I save my best jewelry for black tie or white tie only? I'm supposed to clear it with you? Who the h*** are you? I'm supposed to go to the beauty shop every day like my grandmother? It'll be a cold day in hell before I wait for your shallow approval.

[Anonymous]

16:51 - speak for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"oh it's easy. just like judging people based on their oversized SUVs and designer sunglasses and poor driving skills."

THANK YOU! Couldn't have said it better myself. SO, SO, SO TRUE!

OP must be the woman who is trying to get her husband to "upgrade" (her words, not mine) her ring - from another thread.

Every couple I know where the woman covets and/or has a lot of "stuff", they fight when they go out with other couples, so I can ONLY IMAGINE what it is like to live with them!!!! Wouldn't these poor men rather be dating?!?!?! It's much cheaper than these messes of an alleged "marriage". If the b**** wants all this "stuff" or feels so entitled, she can get her fat a** a job and buy it herself.

News flash: Marriage is not "gee honey buy me lots of stuff 'cause I think I'm all that even if you don't". Get a grip!

BTW, I'm a woman in a reciprocal relationship. What a concept!

The difference is that jewelry is more likely to be handed down since it lasts longer than SUVs and sunglasses. So you can't draw quite the same conclusions about people based on that.

So I'll bite - what the heck is a reciprocal relationship?

[Anonymous]

Old money would not ask this question. Nor would it say things such as "it depends how she's dressed". The snifflier than thoughs should maybe turn their nose in their own direction for once. I don't think it would be pleasant.

[Anonymous]

Oops - meant "thous".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

16:51 - speak for yourself.

Do you even know what that means?

[Anonymous]

I'm amazed that we made it all the way to page 3 before the ritual invocation of old money. Now is it time to sacrifice a goat?

[Anonymous]

Do you even know what old money means?

[Anonymous]

Reciprocal. Look it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And if so, what do you think? I inherited a fairly large ring (2.5 carat stone) and b/c DH didn't have to buy an engagement ring, he splurged on a 3-carat eternity band for my wedding ring. We are not rich by any means, we drive older inexpensive cars, and I buy most of my clothes at Target and Old Navy. I always wonder what other people think when they see my ring, if they think anything at all. I've found that ever since I have it I tend to notice other people's rings a lot.

I don't think I'd notice. But then again I use a *gasp* Vera Bradley bag and had no idea they were ugly until DCUM told me so.

See... all this ring stuff is a little silly, but the Vera Bradley thing you should have known. It should be self-evident: homespun florals= dowdy bag.