Why does my step-son dress so awful? I hate to say it, he dresses as poorly as his bio father

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is my stepson.

His mom (my DW) is a big nerd. I don't think it's genetic, but learned because he learned to love Star Wars & Star Trek, Dr. Who, and weirdo board games from watching/playing with her.

DW will toss on a nerdy tee and leggings and rock that outfit on a weekend for errands. However, she knows how to dress stylishly M-F and when we go out on dates.

He'll toss on nerdy tees and basketball shorts for school and it just makes me cringe so much. I buy him clothes that are "in" and what his peers are wearing. He'll wear a few pieces, but prefers basketball shorts year round (even though he's not at all sporty) because they're comfortable and have "really big pockets for all my things." What things?! You're 14!

I love him, but oy! His lack of style is so frustrating! He's a good looking kid and would definitely have more friends if he dressed better. He desperately wants a girlfriend for the 8th grade spring dance this year and all I want to do is shake him and say, "you gotta hide your inner nerd until you lock it down, son! HIDE IT!"

Wait, what? You literally just described the absolutely normal 14YO public school boy uniform. Your kid is normal.

[Anonymous]

The "hetero man" poster or posters need to give that line up. The OP's problem, if he is a man, is that he is not very accepting of his stepkid and overstepping.

Interest in fashion is not exclusive to gay men, and it is not even the province of all gay men. SO these stupid boxes are reductive to gay and straight men. I hate it.

My DH LOVES clothes. Loves fashion and shoes. Our kid, eh. He is 12. Basketball shorts it is.

My DH knows not to stifle the kid with his fashion sense.
But lots of heterosexual men care about fashion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "hetero man" poster or posters need to give that line up. The OP's problem, if he is a man, is that he is not very accepting of his stepkid and overstepping.

Interest in fashion is not exclusive to gay men, and it is not even the province of all gay men. SO these stupid boxes are reductive to gay and straight men. I hate it.

My DH LOVES clothes. Loves fashion and shoes. Our kid, eh. He is 12. Basketball shorts it is.

My DH knows not to stifle the kid with his fashion sense.
But lots of heterosexual men care about fashion.

+1.

DH’s best friend is a girlfriend illustrator and interior designer. People always ask me if he is gay. No! He is not. These things are not always connected! Herero men can like art!

[Anonymous]

Gifted not girlfriend stupid autocorrect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gifted not girlfriend stupid autocorrect

Too bad. I was noting how quite open and accepting you are . . .