To wait for someone?

[Anonymous]

I think an informed, forceful, and unanimous point has been made and OP has slunk away to lick her wounds.

Take care, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP again. I know. I hear you. Now I just need to find the strength to dig deep and do it. I think I’m going to go the route of telling him to get in touch with me when he’s single. I probably need to get a new job as we work pretty closely together, so this is going to take some planning. We’re two of the stars at my company so a lot of people already pair us up for things- even if I try and change departments we would end up thrown back together. If he were single everyone would cheer for us, but since he’s not... well, let’s just say I can’t stay here if I break things off. Oh what a mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I know. I hear you. Now I just need to find the strength to dig deep and do it. I think I’m going to go the route of telling him to get in touch with me when he’s single. I probably need to get a new job as we work pretty closely together, so this is going to take some planning. We’re two of the stars at my company so a lot of people already pair us up for things- even if I try and change departments we would end up thrown back together. If he were single everyone would cheer for us, but since he’s not... well, let’s just say I can’t stay here if I break things off. Oh what a mess.

Also, if people find out at work, YOU will reap the consequences. Women always take the heat for affairs.

I had a bond with a "Separated" guy I met through work a couple of years ago. I eventually forced myself to erase him completely. A year later, my friend saw him with his wedding band on. Fortunately, while we'd fooled around, I'd stopped us right before sex.

If he really loved you, he wouldn't allow you to enter into this trainwreck. A truly good man wouldn't allow you to wait a decade for him. He'd get divorced or end things.