Wife ignores me when we have a disagreement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP wants to argue and continue fighting. She smartly shuts it down.

I've had friends whose spouses divorced them because they want to whine, argue and come out the winner.

OP left the facts out. It's more often with women, but men do it too. Sometimes you have to agree to disagree, not everything can be resolved.

No. It sound like one side wants some progress on an issue and the other side ignores it all.

[Anonymous]

But diesshe give you the silent treatment? How long will she ignore you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we have a disagreement, after stating her position my wife retreats into ignore me mode.

I have tried explaining the problem with this approach but, well, see above (she ignores me then too).

Not surprisingly this has led to other problems in the marriage.

From where I'm standing divorce is the only option if I don't want a wife who ignores me.

This partially a vent, partially a hail Mary pass to see if there's something I'm overlooking, partially I'm bored at work.

I think this is the problem. DW states her position, and does not allow DH to state his opinion. Which, I don't think it is abusive, is not the way you should be communicating.

DH is trying to explain to his wife that in order to have a healthy relationship, BOTH parties should be allowed to state their opinions, they come to a middle ground or at least an agreement. The DW is essentially making unilateral decisions, not respecting the DH's opinions, thoughts, or feelings... and just ignores him.

How would you feel if your significant other simply said... this is what I think and this conversation is OVER! Think about it... because that is essentially what the DW is doing. She's not asking for time to think. She is not asking to cool off... She is simply saying, this is how it is and you will say nothing further about this. That has to be tiring as hell to OP.

He's the one bringing up getting a new car, so he has already stated his opinion. She says she disagrees. He wants to talk about how (1) she's wrong, and (2) also, she's disagreeing incorrectly; she doesn't continue to engage. Not the same thing as never letting him voice an opinion.

So, your idea of a good communication system and marriage is,

Honey, I would like to buy a new car.

NO. end discussion...

I feel sorry for whoever you have partnered up with.

[Anonymous]

Hey! Sorry this is going on. How long have you been married? I can say that a marriage is a beautiful thing and can be difficult at times...I have been married for 8 years now. Have you considered trying couples counseling before you make any decisions? I will be praying for the both of you.

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