Slept Over at New Girlfriends..

[Anonymous]

Yikes. You're finding (poor, probably unfounded) reasons to distrust her after one night over? You have a long road ahead of you.

[Anonymous]

Woman here. I have my own men’s T-shirts and boxers that I wear as pajamas/ workout clothes. If it was something I was trying to hide (belonged to another man I was sleeping with) I would not offer them to you.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a jerk. I bet you have condoms at your house. Is it so crazy that she would too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Def wouldn’t worry about the shirts. I wore my husband’s XL when I was pregnant and too big for mine and never gave them up even now 4 months pp (and back down to 105 lbs).

Worst

Humblebrag

Ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Def wouldn’t worry about the shirts. I wore my husband’s XL when I was pregnant and too big for mine and never gave them up even now 4 months pp (and back down to 105 lbs).

Worst

Humblebrag

Ever

+10000

[Anonymous]

I saved shirts from guys I used to date and then never washed them so I could sniff them if I missed them. Also, I used to have lots of condoms around the house because I worked in HIV prevention and we gave them away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Def wouldn’t worry about the shirts. I wore my husband’s XL when I was pregnant and too big for mine and never gave them up even now 4 months pp (and back down to 105 lbs).

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Who cares if married women sleep in their husbsnds’ shirts, thuid kind of posts are irrelevant since the girlfriend is obviously single. Some of you just want to reply just to reply or to seek attention.

[Anonymous]

She’s getting plowed off tinder 15 minutes after you leave. /thread

[Anonymous]

T shirt is totally banal and not even worth thinking about.

Re: the condoms, most likely scenario is the box is from the last time she was having sex -- which likely predates her meeting you; or she bought a box this week in anticipation of sleeping with you, and she opened it to take some out for her purse for her date with you. This seems totally innocuous. In 2018, do you still expect women to passively let sex happen only where the guy takes all the steps leading up to it? That we should have no control over time/place?

This reminds me of 20 years ago the summer i interned in DC (last summer of college) and i kept a single condom in my purse. I dated and slept with two guys that summer (after having been in a monogamous relationship for 3 years), and the condom was mostly for me to feel like i was in control of my own decisions. I don't think i ever used it. A couple guy friends from the internship circle i socialized with that summer learned about the condom and were literally jaw dropped, "we need to think about how this changes our impression of you," and told me it by definition meant i was promiscuous. The mere fact of carrying a condom that i hadn't yet used. I was not from the US when this all happened, and i remember this being a rude awakening to the misogyny, repressed sexuality and bizarre double standards that many americans carry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:T shirt is totally banal and not even worth thinking about.

Re: the condoms, most likely scenario is the box is from the last time she was having sex -- which likely predates her meeting you; or she bought a box this week in anticipation of sleeping with you, and she opened it to take some out for her purse for her date with you. This seems totally innocuous. In 2018, do you still expect women to passively let sex happen only where the guy takes all the steps leading up to it? That we should have no control over time/place?

This reminds me of 20 years ago the summer i interned in DC (last summer of college) and i kept a single condom in my purse. I dated and slept with two guys that summer (after having been in a monogamous relationship for 3 years), and the condom was mostly for me to feel like i was in control of my own decisions. I don't think i ever used it. A couple guy friends from the internship circle i socialized with that summer learned about the condom and were literally jaw dropped, "we need to think about how this changes our impression of you," and told me it by definition meant i was promiscuous. The mere fact of carrying a condom that i hadn't yet used. I was not from the US when this all happened, and i remember this being a rude awakening to the misogyny, repressed sexuality and bizarre double standards that many americans carry.

Sounds like you were around a bunch of dorks or hung up people. 30 years ago an appropriately prepared person would not have caused anyone I hung around with to bat an eye lash.

[Anonymous]

Were the condoms Magnum XL’s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:T shirt is totally banal and not even worth thinking about.

Re: the condoms, most likely scenario is the box is from the last time she was having sex -- which likely predates her meeting you; or she bought a box this week in anticipation of sleeping with you, and she opened it to take some out for her purse for her date with you. This seems totally innocuous. In 2018, do you still expect women to passively let sex happen only where the guy takes all the steps leading up to it? That we should have no control over time/place?

This reminds me of 20 years ago the summer i interned in DC (last summer of college) and i kept a single condom in my purse. I dated and slept with two guys that summer (after having been in a monogamous relationship for 3 years), and the condom was mostly for me to feel like i was in control of my own decisions. I don't think i ever used it. A couple guy friends from the internship circle i socialized with that summer learned about the condom and were literally jaw dropped, "we need to think about how this changes our impression of you," and told me it by definition meant i was promiscuous. The mere fact of carrying a condom that i hadn't yet used. I was not from the US when this all happened, and i remember this being a rude awakening to the misogyny, repressed sexuality and bizarre double standards that many americans carry.

Sounds like you were around a bunch of dorks or hung up people. 30 years ago an appropriately prepared person would not have caused anyone I hung around with to bat an eye lash.

Yup they were dorks. Just some dudes who were in the internship circle I met that summer. Not lifelong friends or anything. But where I’m from, neither the cool people nor dorks think that way about women. Still a repressed sexual American attitude.