Having DD repeat 2nd grade.

[Anonymous]

OP: I didn't read the thread but my son is 8 and was born in April. There was a child in his APS class born in March and one full year older than my son. That kid did not have special needs (mine does; dyslexia ADHD ect). So holding your child back one year probably won't be noticed. Good luck my dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I held my DS back. He did 2 years of pre-k. I don't talk about it much on here because people assume my child is "less than" (yes, I said it). FWIW, he is not. He is socially immature. He gets along better and is able to socially keep up better with kids who are a year younger than he is. Making sure he is comfortable with his peer group has had a huge impact on his academics. He also has ADHD and language based LD's. He is learning the same material as everyone else. He is not academically at the top of his class. He was not ready at 5 to start learning in the way they now do it in K. I do sometimes lament (to myself) about the decision DH and I made. Then I see my DS at school and with his peer group , and realize that the decision was absolutely the right one. We switched schools when we held back though. I would not have done it at the same preschool (where he saw his old peer group moving forward while he was not). FWIW, I have a happy 13 yr old who has a tight group of friends and has been doing ok in school.

pre-k does not count as holding back.

not trying to be difficult, but what would you call it. Would you rather I said delaying K for a year. My kid did 2 years of pre-k in two different schools preschools. He entered k a year later than he would have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I held my DS back. He did 2 years of pre-k. I don't talk about it much on here because people assume my child is "less than" (yes, I said it). FWIW, he is not. He is socially immature. He gets along better and is able to socially keep up better with kids who are a year younger than he is. Making sure he is comfortable with his peer group has had a huge impact on his academics. He also has ADHD and language based LD's. He is learning the same material as everyone else. He is not academically at the top of his class. He was not ready at 5 to start learning in the way they now do it in K. I do sometimes lament (to myself) about the decision DH and I made. Then I see my DS at school and with his peer group , and realize that the decision was absolutely the right one. We switched schools when we held back though. I would not have done it at the same preschool (where he saw his old peer group moving forward while he was not). FWIW, I have a happy 13 yr old who has a tight group of friends and has been doing ok in school.

pre-k does not count as holding back.

not trying to be difficult, but what would you call it. Would you rather I said delaying K for a year. My kid did 2 years of pre-k in two different schools preschools. He entered k a year later than he would have.

Delaying K is different than holding back in elementary school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Retention is always a bad idea.

But in this case it is the public school that is suggesting this which is just odd. It sounds like the school cannot support her and is suggesting retention as the solution which means that she will be better served at a SN school with public funding.

If I were you, OP, I would get an advocate.

+1, I'd get an advocate as if they cannot meet the needs in the current grade, how is holding back going to help. What else are they going to give the child to make them more successful?