unsure of lingering SNs in 3 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I just looked up New york state's policies - and honestly, it seems that you really can't delay entry in new york if your child is going to be 5 years old by December (their cutoff is the latest of the country, too!)

IS THIS REALLY TRUE???? Seems so stupid, especially for a child like OPs who could really, really, really use another year of preschool.

Of course, OP, your child may grow up lots in the next 2 years. Keep a close eye on it, and if she still seems just so young by the time she's 4 years old, then I'd push for a developmental pediatrician screening.

And to help your husband get on board, in the meantime, make sure he's doing lots of things at your DD's school, and that he does lots of driving to activities, sitting and watching her take ballet class with the other kids, or at the playground with a few friends, or being the chaperone for her preschool class, etc. That way he will start to understand how delayed she is, if she is. if he just sees her, he has no frame of reference. and if he only picks up once or twice a month, he isn't even paying attention - but if he picks up every day, or drops off every day, and does the driving and manages the playdates with other kids, he'll start to notice.

And, if he doesn't, OR if he continues to be really resistant, then I don't know but I think it's MORE IMPORTANT for your DD to have a champion than to take care of an adult man's feelings.

New York surely allows kids to repeat K. I think NYC also has universal PK now, and you may be able to be retained in PK. And actually, OP's child is a great example of why it might be better to have kids enroll sooner rather than later. If her child is held back as a way to avoid getting services (because OP's DH refuses to "let" her get an evaluation) then that's just one more year that educational professionals don't get to have a chance to refer her for screening. The DH may object now, but seems like it would be hard for him to do so if the teachers refer to Child Find (or the NY equivalent.) Plus, I've heard anecdotally that NYC is very generous with services.