Gender disappointment on second one
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Anonymous
Interestingly I never used it before but it just sort of came out during that post. Not sure why it bothers you. You do you girl. |
Anonymous
https://www.tolerance.org/magazine/spring-2001/the-trouble-with-tribe |
Anonymous
Tribe means a group of related people. That article makes alot of incorrect assumptions about the meaning and implications of the word. It's looking very hard for insults where they don't exist. |
Anonymous
OH COME ON. I am as lefty as it comes and this is so far from the point. It is an article about referring to AFRICANS and NATIVE AMERICAN groups as tribes. Not a DCUM poster referring to her kids. GTFO. |
Anonymous
| I wish I was having another girl (or boy). Instead I got four miscarriages. Be happy that your daughter will have a little sister to grow up with. |
Anonymous
+1. I have a sister and we are opposites, have never got along and have zero communication as adults. |
Anonymous
| Love having two girls. So amazing. Would not want it any other way |
Anonymous
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I have 2 girls, and the second is a huge tomboy whom I suspect will be (or is?) a lesbian. She is so boyish that I kind of feel like I have a boy (and all strangers think she is a boy), and will probably someday have a daughter in law.
Point being-- you never know what your kids will become! |
Anonymous
| OP, I think you were lucky you got another girl. I don’t know how far apart your kids are, but if your second were a boy, it’s like let he would mature much later than your daughter thereby increasing the difference. I have a younger brother who is only 2 years younger. We love each other, but we were not close until he was 20+. I had boyfriends in highschool and he was still watching kids tv shows. Of every adult mixed sex si kings I know, if the woman was older, the kids were likely not close until adulthood. I am sure there are plenty of exceptions, but this is my own experience. If you had a boy first, then a girl (or another boy) would have been great too! |
Anonymous
Lol. I think this is true for most liberals these days. |
Anonymous
I think these feelings are pretty normal, OP. I have had friends in the same boat. The feeling seems to pass. I think it is great for women to be honest about their true feelings-so often, we are made to feel guilty about emotions that are beyond our control. While you certainly shouldn't share these feelings with your children, it is totally fine to seek an outlet to just process. I hope you have a smooth pregnancy, and best of luck with your little girls! 
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Anonymous
| ? for your whine. Grow up. Your child feels your disappointment in utero. |
Anonymous
| Is this a thing? I was just glad to get pregnant and happy to have a healthy child. |
Anonymous
| Sex. It's the same sex child as your first. Fingers crossed, she could still decide to change her gender later on and then you'd get a son and have one of each. |
Anonymous
Yes. |