"Pulling Out" vs. Condoms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 4 yo daughter is living proof that "pulling out" does not work. BTW, up till the day that my doctor confirmed my pregnancy my then fiance insisted that he had not ejaculated before pulling out.

So should I say my 2 year old is living proof that birth control doesn't work?

[Anonymous]

this is the guy - well, the one time i got someone pregnant was the first or second time I tried. so for what that is worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:am i the only one who's surprised that there are so many using condoms? i'm assuming this is because the condom users aren't on birth control.

i thought everyone used birth control!

Actually, only a few million women are on birth control. I was on it for 10 years and honestly, won't go back. Once I went off and realized how different my "real" periods were, I just couldn't go back to having a fake period after the birth of my baby.

I think it is a great form of birth control when you are in your 20s and really can't handle a pregnancy, but now that I'm in my 30s, the thought of not ovulating seems weird to me.

My skin is great and my periods are really light and I can feel when I'm ovulating. I just like it much more. Yes, it's a hassle to have to do condoms, etc. but I just don't want to be on hormones.

[Anonymous]

I'm another one who uses condoms. I just really don't want to be on BCP.

I actually thought the same thing - that everyone was using BCP or something else. So, this is an interesting (and somewhat reassuring) thread. Good to see we're not the only married wierdos using condoms.

[Anonymous]

I have to stick up for the pill. I love being on th epill. I have 2 children, am 41, and love being on the pill. It makes my skin perfect. before I went back on it, and between #1 and #2, I had horible, painful breakouts that were completely attributable to natural hormones in my system. The pill regulates it all and now my skin is gorgeous again (I did not have this probelm pre-kids, BTW). Also, the pill always made my period lighter, which I liked, but now I dont even bother to have a period except for about 1/x year just to "clean things out." We do not "need" periods every month. There is no medically necessary reason t have periods. i hate having my period and now I dont. Again, I LOVE THE PILL!!!!! Someone had to stick up for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so silly. How can a group of largely educated women be so ignorant about pulling out? It has been studied time and time again and if the man is consistently pulling out before ejaculation, then the failure rate of the withdrawal method is not significantly different than the failure rate of condoms.

For the record, I have been using the withdrawal method with my man for 10 years without a single pregnancy. It works just fine.

You know it's not a given that when you have sex with the intention of getting pregnant that it happens. Really, I think you've been lucky. Some women think that because they didn't get pregnant without birth control for a certain number of years that it means they are safe. You have been lucky for 10 years. Even when you're trying, it is often hard to get pregnant. When I went off the pill, I got pregnant immediately after we first started trying. So when I had a miscarrige I thought I'd get pregnant again easily. Not so. Took me 3 years, and I was trying. If you aren't actually trying, and you're using withdrawal, you're still leaving it up to chance. No matter how many years success you've had. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We use condoms. I don't want to go back on the pill. I'll gain another 10 pounds if I do.

I went off the pill for awhile for the very same reason. I still have 10 pounds from the baby weight (and I won't say how old the youngest is). I can't afford another 10 pounds from the pill. DH won't do the pull-out method - we already visited sex ed 101 with our 2nd - YES you can get pregnant breastfeeding and YES you can get pregnant the one time you don't use a condom and are not using a reliable method of birth control. After having a 15 month old in a crib when you bring a baby home from the hospital you get scared straight. I am thinking I will try some other form of BC now that I think we aren't going for a 3rd. I really miss the naughty unprotected sex feeling - especially showers. So in some ways I do feel like a teenager worried about getting pregnant using a condom but while adorable - I don't think I can handle another surprise. The funniest thing is I took a survey on baby center about if the pregnancy was a surprise and I read stories about people with one ovary or where told they could never have children and for 10 years didn't get pregnant and one day - bam - baby on the way. After reading those stories I especially felt the need for consistent birth control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy and have pulled out thousands of time. no chance I ever did not pull out in time. Key thing is to make it part of your sex life - where you finish can be fun.

Moron, do you have a comprehension problem? A woman can get pregnant without you ejaculating. Your pre-come -- the little drops of semen that come out of your penis long before you ejaculate -- contains enough sperm to cause a pregnancy.

Before you get on your high name-calling horse you might want to do some research. This whole pre-cum thing is vastly overblown. Yes, it can in very rare cases lead to pregnancy - in most cases it never will.

[Anonymous]

I don't find condoms use disgusting, I actually prefer it with condoms, don't have to deal with anything leaking back from me, we've used condoms for a couple of years when DH was working in another country and we saw each other every other month or so. Now, i'm on the pill. If i really didn't want to get pregnant, i wouldn't use the pull out method. it simply doesn't work.

[Anonymous]

We use a combination of condom and rhythm method. My body didn't like the pill - I spotted all the time, but my periods come like clockwork when I'm NOT on the pill. My DH chickened out on the vasectomy, but we're glad he did because we decided to have a third baby 4 years later. LOL

[Anonymous]

I find pulling out to be highly unsatisfying. Doesn't it sort of seem unfulfilling?

[Anonymous]

The ONLY times I got pregnant was when DH did NOT pull out and when we used condoms. I never got pregnan when we practiced pulling out. (note: we would have been okay with getting pregnant so it was no big deal)

Of course I would never tell my children to use the method though, I still think condoms are the way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy and have pulled out thousands of time. no chance I ever did not pull out in time. Key thing is to make it part of your sex life - where you finish can be fun.

Moron, do you have a comprehension problem? A woman can get pregnant without you ejaculating. Your pre-come -- the little drops of semen that come out of your penis long before you ejaculate -- contains enough sperm to cause a pregnancy.

Before you get on your high name-calling horse you might want to do some research. This whole pre-cum thing is vastly overblown. Yes, it can in very rare cases lead to pregnancy - in most cases it never will.

I'm laughing. You obviously know nothing about statistics and probability. However "rare" the chance may be, it only takes one exposure, not cumulative exposures -- and if you are that one lucky person..guess what? One screw without birth control, and you're pregnant. So who cares how rare it is?

[Anonymous]

We used condoms because as I aged, the pill was less comfortable for me and shot my libido to hell (which did make it good birth control, but that's another topic...).

Eventually I got an IUD (not yet appropriate for you).

I agree with you about pulling out. Plus, its invasive. Who wants to be thinking about "the right moment"?