S/o: Do you call you in-laws "Mom" and "Dad"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hav been married 20 years, I have never called them mom and dad. I don’t really call them by name. I just talk to them with calling them anything.

This. When I have to get their attention, it's using their first name - or now that they are grandparents, I'll call them what the kids call them - which is not Mom or Dad.

[Anonymous]

I call then Bob and Carol.

[Anonymous]

No way, I have a mom and dad. Don't need a second pair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First names or grammy and gramps

Hello, relative.

[Anonymous]

I call them Grandma and Grandpa in their own language, since that is what my children call them. I also use the respectful term for "you", instead of the casual term, in our common language.

My husband calls my parents by their first names, and also uses the respectful term for "you".

[Anonymous]

We've called both sets of in-laws Mom and Dad. We married into each others family so it made sense for us. It really helps that we both liked our in-laws from very early on.

[Anonymous]

No. I only have one mom and one dad and my in laws are not them. They did not raise me and have done nothing to earn that title from me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just asking out of curiosity!

My fiance calls my parents mom and dad and has for about a year or so. All are fine with it. I just call his parents by their first names because that is what I am comfortable with and prefer to reserve mom/dad for my biological parents -- all are fine with that as well! So this works for us, but wondering what others so and if the transition to calling them something new was awkward. (Did they ask that you call them that? Did you just start post-marriage without a prompt?)

Nope. They're not my parents. They are family, but not my parents.

[Anonymous]

I don't, though my MIL did proactively tell me that I could if I wanted to. No offense taken with my decision not to.

[Anonymous]

As a mother I think I would feel strange about my child calling someone else mom. It's such a special bond. Same with my dh. It's not the same as grandpa or grandma.

[Anonymous]

We both use Mom and Dad for in-laws. We've been together since college so over 30 years. It was hard at first making the shift from the formal Mr./Mrs. because that is what I had said for so long when we were dating. Kinda like when we moved next door to one of my former elementary school teachers and she said to call her "Sheila". It was an honor but yikes(!) it was hard the first few times.

[Anonymous]

No!

[Anonymous]

No and married 10+ years. Is it weird that I don't call them anything? We don't see them or speak very often. When we do I say hello and go from there. H said they probably would ask me to, but they never did. I would not have if they had asked. I have parents and our parents are complete opposites.
Future sil calls my parents mom and dad. I don't like it. I like her, just not that she calls them that.

[Anonymous]

I’m at the other end of spectrum. Married for 5 years and my SIL and I call them Mrs. X and Mr. X. I hate it so much, I’d prefer to do first names as my husband does with my more laid back family. It’s a weird respect thing that my in laws have. Not a fan.

[Anonymous]

Never. Ever.