S/o: Do you call you in-laws "Mom" and "Dad"?

[Anonymous]

No. I already have a mom and dad.

[Anonymous]

My MIL really pushes for me to call her mom. It feels too awkward for me, so I avoid calling her anything. Sometimes I call her Grandma since that’s what my kid calls her. My mom saw a card from her signed “mom” once and flipped out. My mom has major issues of her own, for another thread, but it’s not worth it to me to rock that boat. The thing that bothers me more is that she pushes for my BIL (her daughters husband) to cal her mom, and he lost his mom to cancer in college. Understandably, he wants to reserve that title for his mom who passed away.

Luckily MIL’s husband, my husbands father figure, is his step dad, so we all call him by his first name.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we do. My parents called their inlaws Mom and Dad, so I always expected to. It was a little strange at first, but now it's natural - married close to 15 years. The only time it gets confusing is when we're all together.

[Anonymous]

Good god no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. they wanted me to but I just couldn't. I got a new brother in law this year and I'm a little upset he calls them mom and dad. I've been married 10 years and I'm sure he's the favorite inlaw already

Wait - your inlaws asked you to do something, you refused; they asked your new brother in law, and he agreed, and you're upset about that?

OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just used their first names. They weren't my parents.

+1

[Anonymous]

Yes, both DH and I, call both sets of parents by the same names. Married 20 years. It was strange in the beginning but it became normal pretty soon after we got married. It made everyone happy and that was a very small thing for us to do. We also have a great relationship with both sets of parents and are basically drama-free.

[Anonymous]

Yes.
Dh calls my parents "mom & dad" and I do the same with his.

We're all family, close too.

[Anonymous]

No, I call them by their first names. My DH who adores my mom calls her by her first name too.

[Anonymous]

First names all around and it's all very affectionate.

[Anonymous]

Oh man no way. I have a mom and dad. I do call them grandma/pa when the kids are around. But even then I tack on their first names a lot because we have several "grandma/grandpa" types.

[Anonymous]

Hell no and I find it very bizarre when people do.

It may be because English wasn't the primary language spoken in my home growing up and in our language the words for in-laws don't include mother or father or them. Everyone has their own separate word.

Plus a daughter-in-law will always refer to her mother-in-law as "Mrs. Betty" no matter how close the two females are. They can be best friends but you still include the title.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good god no.

In fact, I try to avoid calling them anything at all. I refer to them by their grandparent names if they/we are visiting if I am saying something like “you need to ask grandma if you can have an orange” if we are at their house.

[Anonymous]

Jesus, no. I can't imagine doing that. I called them Mr. and Mrs. X for the first 6+ years we dated (we started at 19). Now I call them by their first names, and my DH does the same with my parents. They're not my mom and dad.