Why is it anti gay to say that gay women have a higher divorce rate than gay men?

[Anonymous]

A lot of lesbians are hot but this thread is not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sheesh, OP. Do you also go to a young couple's wedding and say, "well, statistics say that marriages at your age have a high chance of failure, so good luck with that!" Or tell a cancer patient that their odds of surviving five years are crappy? People aren't statistics and don't like being treated as such.

Happily married couples talk about divorce rates all the time without impacting the stability of the marriage.

This wasn't a wedding. This was a lunchroom conversation. I don't see anything wrong with the topic or context. If the other person took it sensitively that is mainly due to her and not the topic.

It is not a socially appropriate subject. Are you on the spectrum?

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Why would this even come up at work? Do you go around telling your straight co-workers that their marriages only have a 50% chance of surviving?

Yeah, when there's one single person present who fits into a certain category, and then you start spouting statistics (factual or not) about their subgroub, it just doesn't come off well. This is especially true when the topic in question is a very recently hard won civil right, and one that many people are trying to undo at that. Whether or not you intended the discussion as a comment about her marriage, it certainly comes off that way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gay women marry at a MUCH higher rate than gay men (2/3 of all same sex marriages were women in the years after SCOTUS decision), so the divorce rate would naturally be higher. Gay women actually have much more stable relationships.

The divorce rate of lesbians compared to gay men is higher because more women have married since gay marriage became legal. But you look at relationships and you will find that lesbians have more stable relationships than gay men or straight people, for that matter. Because women are more stable than men when it comes to relationships, period! And two women settling in together are more likely to stay together. I am not judging their happiness or lack of by the way. I am just commenting on attitudes and behaviors I've observed over my 70 years, 60 of them living in very liberal areas where gays make a significant number of the population. Anecdotal evidence isn't always evidence, and I'm aware of it.

I don't think you understand statistics. Or maybe math. This is about percentages, not the total number.

[Anonymous]

It's not just anti-lesbian, it's also anti-woman.


Shame op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think gay marriage has been legal long enough for there to be much useful data on divorce rates.

I wouldn't think so either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:* citation needed

Also, are you on the spectrum, OP, because your total lack of social awareness (I was just quoting statistics) is troubling.

Are you on the spectrum also PP? Your lack of social awareness means you’re probably a douche but may also be on the spectrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not just anti-lesbian, it's also anti-woman.


Shame op

It’s really neither, but put in your pink p@ssy hat and march about it.

[Anonymous]

Gay women also have much higher marriage rate than gay men. About 2/3 of gay marriages since DOMA are women.

[Anonymous]

Not DOMA (dug!)) . apology. Since Obergfell. (SCOTUS decision legalizing gay marriage).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The data should be easy to come by, since there's a court record for divorce filings.

That said, people don't like it when someone quotes statistics that while true, make a group look bad. For example, if you say that [insert race here] has a higher chance of X or a lower chance of Y, people will call you racist, even if the statistics show this to be true.

Essentially you don't like facts.

Own it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sheesh, OP. Do you also go to a young couple's wedding and say, "well, statistics say that marriages at your age have a high chance of failure, so good luck with that!" Or tell a cancer patient that their odds of surviving five years are crappy? People aren't statistics and don't like being treated as such.

Happily married couples talk about divorce rates all the time without impacting the stability of the marriage.

This wasn't a wedding. This was a lunchroom conversation. I don't see anything wrong with the topic or context. If the other person took it sensitively that is mainly due to her and not the topic.

I agree. I don’t see the issue with the use of statistics, and you weren’t even referring to the coworker’s marriage directly. But then, I’m a scientist so spouting off studies is just a normal part of the day for me.

That being said, if I offended someone, I would apologize. Whether I think I was wrong or not. And I’d be more sensitive toward this person who is obviously easily offended.

[Anonymous]

I always joked that there were gay years and straight years when referring to longevity in a relationship. It’s similar to the concept of dog years.

In my experience, same sex relationships can be very intense, and move quickly. Moving at a quick clip, they can tell sooner if a relationship isn’t going to work.

Since I’ve gotten older, relationships of my friends have gotten more stable. I’m not saying this is a 100% rule, just an observation.

[Anonymous]

Two thirds of gay marriages are women so of course they have a higher divorce rate than gay men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two thirds of gay marriages are women so of course they have a higher divorce rate than gay men.

Why do you suppose lesbians marry at much higher rates than gay men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why was necessary for you share something you “read” about divorce rates? How was that relevant to the work you do?

Because...there's something called human conversation?