Why is it anti gay to say that gay women have a higher divorce rate than gay men?

[Anonymous]

Gay women marry at a MUCH higher rate than gay men (2/3 of all same sex marriages were women in the years after SCOTUS decision), so the divorce rate would naturally be higher. Gay women actually have much more stable relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gay women marry at a MUCH higher rate than gay men (2/3 of all same sex marriages were women in the years after SCOTUS decision), so the divorce rate would naturally be higher. Gay women actually have much more stable relationships.

No, because the divorce rate is calculated as a percentage of total marriages. And the early studies do show that lesbians divorce a higher rate. That said, I don't know why OP even asked the original question since he isn't willing to think about why his comments were perceived as anti-gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gay women marry at a MUCH higher rate than gay men (2/3 of all same sex marriages were women in the years after SCOTUS decision), so the divorce rate would naturally be higher. Gay women actually have much more stable relationships.

This was my thinking in it as well. Gay women are more likely to commit to a relationship early on. It's like the old joke, "What does a lesbian being on a second date? A moving truck. What does a gay man bring on a second date? What second date?"

[Anonymous]

You were insensitive and tone-deaf, OP, and if you're like this all the time, you're not going to make many friends.

Something may be true, but it doesn't mean you should come out with it. Before you open that big mouth if yours, pay attention to your audience and whether their life situations are going to color their appreciation for what you are about to say.

Otherwise you're coming off as someone with Asperger's, or just a boor.

[Anonymous]

"Hey Larla. I know you are married to a black man. I read online that they have large schlongs? Is this true?"

Things you don't talk about at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone at work slammed me for this. I read somewhere that the biggest risk of divorce is having a woman in the marriage since women file for divorce at a much lower threshold than men do. Then I gave the example that the divorce rate among gay men is much lower than for gay women. A gay woman at work got mad (she is not getting divorced). I refuse to apologize. I was just quoting stats.

Huh? This makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

True or not, stupid and insensitive thing to tell your gay coworker

Can I tell you that you probably have 60% less orgasms than DW and I do? Statistically of course?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:True or not, stupid and insensitive thing to tell your gay coworker

Can I tell you that you probably have 60% less orgasms than DW and I do? Statistically of course?

NP here. This is funny.

A good analogy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sheesh, OP. Do you also go to a young couple's wedding and say, "well, statistics say that marriages at your age have a high chance of failure, so good luck with that!" Or tell a cancer patient that their odds of surviving five years are crappy? People aren't statistics and don't like being treated as such.

Happily married couples talk about divorce rates all the time without impacting the stability of the marriage.

This wasn't a wedding. This was a lunchroom conversation. I don't see anything wrong with the topic or context. If the other person took it sensitively that is mainly due to her and not the topic.

It is not a socially appropriate subject. Are you on the spectrum?

[Anonymous]

People who want to be offended will be offended (or offended on behalf of others). Other people will not be offended by the topic. This includes plenty of gays. Probably more gay men then lesbians if I had to make a guess as my personal experience is that gay men are far less touchy or easily offended by perceived slights than lesbians.

[Anonymous]

No brainer. Gay men tend to have more open marriages... hence no need to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sheesh, OP. Do you also go to a young couple's wedding and say, "well, statistics say that marriages at your age have a high chance of failure, so good luck with that!" Or tell a cancer patient that their odds of surviving five years are crappy? People aren't statistics and don't like being treated as such.

Happily married couples talk about divorce rates all the time without impacting the stability of the marriage.

This wasn't a wedding. This was a lunchroom conversation. I don't see anything wrong with the topic or context. If the other person took it sensitively that is mainly due to her and not the topic.

It is not a socially appropriate subject. Are you on the spectrum?

+1

Why would this even come up at work? Do you go around telling your straight co-workers that their marriages only have a 50% chance of surviving?

[Anonymous]

I love how this thread started off by bashing OP for stating something that was untrue. When it came to be clear that what OP said actually true, it shifted to bashing OP for lacking social skills. Tells you all you need to know about how tolerant LGBT people really are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how this thread started off by bashing OP for stating something that was untrue. When it came to be clear that what OP said actually true, it shifted to bashing OP for lacking social skills. Tells you all you need to know about how tolerant LGBT people really are.

Wow, complaining about generalizations by making a generalization. Pretty lame. And that's just you I'm talking about, not anyone else in your demographic group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gay women marry at a MUCH higher rate than gay men (2/3 of all same sex marriages were women in the years after SCOTUS decision), so the divorce rate would naturally be higher. Gay women actually have much more stable relationships.

The divorce rate of lesbians compared to gay men is higher because more women have married since gay marriage became legal. But you look at relationships and you will find that lesbians have more stable relationships than gay men or straight people, for that matter. Because women are more stable than men when it comes to relationships, period! And two women settling in together are more likely to stay together. I am not judging their happiness or lack of by the way. I am just commenting on attitudes and behaviors I've observed over my 70 years, 60 of them living in very liberal areas where gays make a significant number of the population. Anecdotal evidence isn't always evidence, and I'm aware of it.