Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?

[Anonymous]

OP again: what is worse, his take home pay is about 7K. I am not sure he realizes that he would have to pay for 2 apartments unless he wants to compromise his credit score and such (let's face it, if rent is not paid he will be just as responsible as me). He is getting a bonus in March but still.
I really don't want him to get away with such irresponsibility towards his child. Yet, I have to keep quiet until I get the green card (or just say to heck with it and leave with the child - he won't object).

[Anonymous]

And, OP again: what I wanted to do is get by somehow until the green card - getting free food, if need be. Then file for divorce. It's not like I was planning to be on food stamps forever.
I am in a pinch as officially I am a well off person with above average annual family income, yet, I am broke.
I don't know, maybe we should just cross the border into Canada as refugees...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And, OP again: what I wanted to do is get by somehow until the green card - getting free food, if need be. Then file for divorce. It's not like I was planning to be on food stamps forever.
I am in a pinch as officially I am a well off person with above average annual family income, yet, I am broke.
I don't know, maybe we should just cross the border into Canada as refugees...

You can go to food banks but you won’t qualify for food stamps for yourself. However you might want to look into what your child qualifies for since they are a citizen.They might qualify for free breakfasts/lunches at school and that will help.

I would definitely look for a cheaper 1 bedroom or even a studio. And your top priority needs to be finding FT employment. Whatever you can get. What is your employment background?

[Anonymous]

It would help if you mentioned what state you are in. If he is giving you $2K per month (plus a couple hundred in utilities?) and your child is in elementary school and thus only needs aftercare I suspect that is close, if not more, than the guidelines amounts for an HHI of $180K.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And, OP again: what I wanted to do is get by somehow until the green card - getting free food, if need be. Then file for divorce. It's not like I was planning to be on food stamps forever.
I am in a pinch as officially I am a well off person with above average annual family income, yet, I am broke.
I don't know, maybe we should just cross the border into Canada as refugees...

You can go to food banks but you won’t qualify for food stamps for yourself. However you might want to look into what your child qualifies for since they are a citizen.They might qualify for free breakfasts/lunches at school and that will help.

I would definitely look for a cheaper 1 bedroom or even a studio. And your top priority needs to be finding FT employment. Whatever you can get. What is your employment background?

will food banks ask questions? I know this is incredibly stupid but not being a person of color or an elderly person I just think they will suspect I am trying to fool them.
Also, for the free food at school - officially I (he) still has this above average income.
My background is admin/EA/project manager type of work.
The apartment is pretty inexpensive since it was rented a long time ago. I could score something for, say, 1800 instead of 2000, but not in the immediate area. I also tend to cling on to the present place irrationally...also it will be stress for the child as it is with dad moving out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would help if you mentioned what state you are in. If he is giving you $2K per month (plus a couple hundred in utilities?) and your child is in elementary school and thus only needs aftercare I suspect that is close, if not more, than the guidelines amounts for an HHI of $180K.

I have a strong case for alimony. No, he is not paying for utilities (as of now, at least). Yes I can try to ask for more money, but like I said I would prefer to not piss him off just yet.

[Anonymous]

As for jobs I can get fairly quickly - I was thinking retail, nannying, or subbing at the school district.

[Anonymous]

OP, I mean this in the nicest possible way, but you need to face reality. Your options are:

1. Reconcile with husband and live under one roof.
2. Ask your family for money
3. Go home to your home country where you qualify for social benefits.

You not wanting to do things because you’re worried about credit scores shows you have your current priorities out of whack and your head hasn’t caught up with your reality. You are in survival mode now. If you separate in a country where you have tenuous residency status and no independent resources, you are not well-to-do. I get that you’re angry, but life isn’t fair. And if you haven’t figured it out, America doesn’t even like its own poor people, let alone foreign poor people.

[Anonymous]

My whole family lived in a studio easily commutable to NYC for $1400/mo. You’re poor now, act like it.

[Anonymous]

Obvious troll is obvious. It was already clear but then this nonsense about POC not gettin questioned at food banks but OP would be... come on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obvious troll is obvious. It was already clear but then this nonsense about POC not gettin questioned at food banks but OP would be... come on.

Yeah, saw that too, definitely trolling.

[Anonymous]

I am not a troll. I wish I were!
I am just not thinking very clearly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not a troll. I wish I were!
I am just not thinking very clearly.

“Sorry guys you know how confused people are more racist anyway back to the subject of me feeding all your anti-immigrant fever dreams”

[Anonymous]

If you think I am trolling, just don't write anything, ok? I am not. I already understand I won't find compassion, but maybe some advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think I am trolling, just don't write anything, ok? I am not. I already understand I won't find compassion, but maybe some advice.

You’ve gotten a lot of advice. You just don’t like any of it.