I wish my husband was smarter than me

[Anonymous]

Women complain about making less money and having fewer leadership positions than men.

But then they don't want to be with a man who makes less money and lacks leadership qualities.

These two things are not unconnected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cant decide if I'm shocked or amused with how poor the grasp on grammar is for so many of the DCUM forum. Maybe if you spent more time at a desk and less time on your back you wouldn't be so terrified of him leaving you?

Are you on the wrong post, or just insane?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband dearly. He is sweet, kind, generous and a great lover. He adores me. But...I think I'm smarter than him. And...it really bugs me.

He's the Phil to my Claire; Tom to my Annette; Homer to my Marge.

I have friends that are so impressed by their husbands and defer to them for decisions, life planning etc.

I am in-charge of it all. Because my husband is kind of a dufus.

I'm so sick of it.

UNTREATED ADHD. Get him treatment, stat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband dearly. He is sweet, kind, generous and a great lover. He adores me. But...I think I'm smarter than him. And...it really bugs me.

He's the Phil to my Claire; Tom to my Annette; Homer to my Marge.

I have friends that are so impressed by their husbands and defer to them for decisions, life planning etc.

I am in-charge of it all. Because my husband is kind of a dufus.

I'm so sick of it.

OP, I just wrote on another thread (about husbands and money) - if it is any consolation, I know quite a few wives first hand who have exceptionally smart husbands (and the wives are also exceptionally smart, not by coincidence). In the cases I know (quite a few), the wives have to take on QUITE a lot, as there is absolutely zero common sense in the other half of the marriage. Which does not sound bad, until you live it - these women are absolutely exhausted. Not to mention, the amount of patience, lack of communication, and everything else that goes along with it. Be careful what you ask for, seriously. I hear about it a lot, it is bad.

Agree. Like zero life skills and zero common sense.
I often dream my DH would go on Survival Island and show the world what setbacks I have to go through several times a week. Nnd then by Day 3 of the show, he dies doing something totally stupid.

[Anonymous]

Look into the notion of comparative advantage. That's what I would focus on.

OP, my longtime ex and I were like this and I left. My husband and I are much closer in terms of IQ and I'm immeasurably happier. I don't think divorce is the answer for you, but now that you've recognized the issue, figure out how you're going to *productively* (i.e. not destructively) address it. That could be focusing on the positive, which is what I would do, or for you it could mean something else...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Were. Not WAS

YES! I was wondering when someone would say that. No one ever gets subjective right.

Subjunctive. Not subjective, subjunctive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's ''smarter than I".

No it's not.

Yes, it is. Finish the “smarter than I am.”

Not “smarter than me am.”

[Anonymous]

My strongest reaction to your post is passionate indignation on behalf of phil dunphy. Claire isn’t smarter than him and he’s a fantastic husband and dad!

[Anonymous]

Be grateful for what you have. My smart husband was abusive. I can't tell you how many times I kicked my own ass for buying into it. I would rather have a less smart husband than an abusive one,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's ''smarter than I".

No it's not.

Yes, it is. Finish the “smarter than I am.”

Not “smarter than me am.”

You're both right (and, therefore, wrong): https://www.quora.com/Why-is-Smarter-than-I-correct-and-Smarter-than-me-grammatically-wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be grateful for what you have. My smart husband was abusive. I can't tell you how many times I kicked my own ass for buying into it. I would rather have a less smart husband than an abusive one,

But what a low bar if you have to choose one over the other. I'm sorry for what you went through, PP.

[Anonymous]

What are his passions? Listen when he talks about them, you might learn more about something.. even if it’s dumb memes. Which by the way are probably going to be a billion dollar business in the next 5 minutes. Relax! Is Clair all that smart? She seems unhappy and that’s really a stupid way to live.

[Anonymous]

"n the field of psychology, the Dunning–Kruger effect is a cognitive bias wherein people of low ability suffer from illusory superiority, mistakenly assessing their cognitive ability as greater than it is. The cognitive bias of illusory superiority derives from the metacognitive inability of low-ability persons to recognize their own ineptitude; without the self-awareness of metacognition, low-ability people cannot objectively evaluate their actual competence or incompetence"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband dearly. He is sweet, kind, generous and a great lover. He adores me. But...I think I'm smarter than him. And...it really bugs me.

He's the Phil to my Claire; Tom to my Annette; Homer to my Marge.

I have friends that are so impressed by their husbands and defer to them for decisions, life planning etc.

I am in-charge of it all. Because my husband is kind of a dufus.

I'm so sick of it.

I think you give yourself way too much credit.

[Anonymous]

I understand what you mean OP.

You want your husband to be a leader.....a rock for you.

Someone who has the ability to look out for you.

Great husband qualities for sure!