He cheated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

6 months isn't that long when you are in for it for the long haul.
I'm been married 20 years. There are times we are like honeymooners and times I can't stand him. Sometimes we have sex 25 times a month and then there are times we go for many months without sex ( longest was 7 months). You persevere. You don't go cheating when things suck. Not when you are in it for the long haul.
I had no sex drive for a long time. Thank god DH was patient as we are deliriously happy. You ride out the difficult times.

You are crazy if you think your husband wasn’t banging someone else during those 7 months..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

6 months isn't that long when you are in for it for the long haul.
I'm been married 20 years. There are times we are like honeymooners and times I can't stand him. Sometimes we have sex 25 times a month and then there are times we go for many months without sex ( longest was 7 months). You persevere. You don't go cheating when things suck. Not when you are in it for the long haul.
I had no sex drive for a long time. Thank god DH was patient as we are deliriously happy. You ride out the difficult times.

You are crazy if you think your husband wasn’t banging someone else during those 7 months..

Not really...not every guy cheats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

6 months isn't that long when you are in for it for the long haul.
I'm been married 20 years. There are times we are like honeymooners and times I can't stand him. Sometimes we have sex 25 times a month and then there are times we go for many months without sex ( longest was 7 months). You persevere. You don't go cheating when things suck. Not when you are in it for the long haul.
I had no sex drive for a long time. Thank god DH was patient as we are deliriously happy. You ride out the difficult times.

You are crazy if you think your husband wasn’t banging someone else during those 7 months..

Im sorry you are married to a loser. Not all men cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

6 months isn't that long when you are in for it for the long haul.
I'm been married 20 years. There are times we are like honeymooners and times I can't stand him. Sometimes we have sex 25 times a month and then there are times we go for many months without sex ( longest was 7 months). You persevere. You don't go cheating when things suck. Not when you are in it for the long haul.
I had no sex drive for a long time. Thank god DH was patient as we are deliriously happy. You ride out the difficult times.

You are crazy if you think your husband wasn’t banging someone else during those 7 months..

Im sorry you are married to a loser. Not all men cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

6 months isn't that long when you are in for it for the long haul.
I'm been married 20 years. There are times we are like honeymooners and times I can't stand him. Sometimes we have sex 25 times a month and then there are times we go for many months without sex ( longest was 7 months). You persevere. You don't go cheating when things suck. Not when you are in it for the long haul.
I had no sex drive for a long time. Thank god DH was patient as we are deliriously happy. You ride out the difficult times.

Apparently it is. Men are babies - 6 months probably felt like 10 years of neglect to him.

NP here. My dh isn't a baby. Both of our sex drives decreased. He is approaching 50. When you have sex once a month, that becomes normal. You get used to less sex. The more you have sex the more you want it.
I can tell many posters here haven't been married long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have anyone at your old job that you can trust enough to ask if there's an open position?

Why does asking for open positions require trust?

No big deal - just prptective by nature. I didin't know if privacy is an issue - questions around the office about reasons for coming back, etc..

[Anonymous]

A broken heart is a painful thing. I know. I've been there. The wonderful thing is that broken hearts can be healed and joy can be restored. Time will heal. I hope you're a person of faith because my relationship with Christ gave me something to really focus on while I was working through all the disillusionment that I felt. You WILL overcome this. Sounds like your husband could use some prayer. He has been caught in a very deceptive trap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A broken heart is a painful thing. I know. I've been there. The wonderful thing is that broken hearts can be healed and joy can be restored. Time will heal. I hope you're a person of faith because my relationship with Christ gave me something to really focus on while I was working through all the disillusionment that I felt. You WILL overcome this. Sounds like your husband could use some prayer. He has been caught in a very deceptive trap.

Thank you, my heart is really broken and I don't know what to do. I am in this new city with no friends or family, he didn't come home tonight, no idea where he is. I am just so disappointed and hurt, and don't know how to move passed this

[Anonymous]

OP, can’t you move back to your home town? Spend time with old friends and family for awhile? You have no commitments to tie you down. Take care of yourself and escape that toxic environment. Now. Things will look different with more distance between you. What is keeping you there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A broken heart is a painful thing. I know. I've been there. The wonderful thing is that broken hearts can be healed and joy can be restored. Time will heal. I hope you're a person of faith because my relationship with Christ gave me something to really focus on while I was working through all the disillusionment that I felt. You WILL overcome this. Sounds like your husband could use some prayer. He has been caught in a very deceptive trap.

Thank you, my heart is really broken and I don't know what to do. I am in this new city with no friends or family, he didn't come home tonight, no idea where he is. I am just so disappointed and hurt, and don't know how to move passed this

I'm sorry...your husband abandoned you and filed for a divorce less than a year into your marriage. Why are you still waiting? Have you no dignity?