Men: does a woman playing hard to get really work?

[Anonymous]

Men will tell you no - but if you make yourself too available, they do lose interest. Not jumping in headfirst into a relationship and holding part of yourself back until he proves himself trustworthy and serious in his intentions is not playing games, it's taking your time so that you know what you're getting into.

[Anonymous]

Man here. First, drop the game stuff after you're sleeping together/seeing each other on a regular basis.

Don't be flaky. I married DW because she was quick to respond when I asked her out. It was fine if she said she was busy, tired from work, etc.. but at least she responded in a timely manner. If I have to wait 2 days for a reply, to me that means you're flaky and you're good for a FWB at most, but not marriage material.

As for planning dates, it's refreshing if a woman plans them now and then, especially if it's something she's really into like a particular music event or sporting event etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. For me, and if i were younger and if I just wanted to sleep with you (i.e., short term fling of sorts), then perhaps.

But I'm just too far removed from the post-college scene to be playing games. I'm a single dad, early 40s with a great high income career. I am only interested in women who want a serious relationship. This means a mature woman who knows what she wants and doesn't play childish games.

+1. I wish more men had this mentality.

From my experience they are still in a childish phase/mentality no matter what age they are. They still play games, they still don't know what they want, They're still incredibly insecure.

[Anonymous]

In general, I don't respond to the "hard to get" play. You are unavailable? That opens the door to someone else. That said, this situation is a little different than the norm. He wants space and you are giving it. Might be good b/c he may have the perception that it was more you than him. He will miss it and if you aren't knocking his door down, you will soon have your answer if he was slow ghosting you or if he just needed to dial back a little. Just be cautious how far you push it.