Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

39 with a 16yo and a 14yo

And I get judged all the time. I swear I almost need to wear a sign that says yes, I graduated from a 4 year college, then got married, then had kids (we found out we were pregnant with our first about 6 months after we got married).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. thank you for all the replies. So, it is not that usual for this area after all? I actually think some older parents than me seem to have more energy and are really into lunches and dinners and sport events for their teens. I think maybe sometimes people don't actually really look at other people and might get the impression that I am younger, I have my dark hair natural, few grays, but unnoticeable. (and just on dcum I will admit that I had botox done last summer)Though, if they do think I am younger, I honestly don't feel like I am or look younger. Most of the days, I barely have enough energy to go to these sport events and dinners. But, since there are so many of these, it would be nice if I kind of had a few parents to gravitate to. They certainly are very involved but in a good way. They are all very nice and polite, but not chatty with me. BTW, I am not a grouchy, negative European type at all. I actually dislike those exact behaviors when I go back for a visit. But, anyway, this was more me putting my thoughts on "paper" here, so to say.

I am one of the PP's who is over 50 with a young child. I just want you to know that I am always happy to talk to people and enjoy meeting other parents at games and dinners and events. However, in addition to the young child you know, I have a full-time job, I am a "sandwich" with elderly parents and kids, and we have kids in college. It is all I can do right now to keep my balls in the air and not drop any. So don't think that I'm not inviting you to lunch because I don't like you. I'm not inviting you to lunch because I don't have time to eat lunch. Talk to me in 10 years.

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[Anonymous]

49 with a seven year old and a five year old. Look younger than I am, but won't last forever. Kids in private school and I notice the parent demographic skews a bit older there. Don't care that I'm old as I'm just so damn grateful that I get to be a parent.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks again! I might look younger, I know my DS's friends commented to him about my age and he told them that I am not young at all! And then he told them my age! I don't think I look younger and as mentioned I don't feel younger. Age was recently discussed and that is how I found out. As for being invited to lunches and other events, I am not at all wanting to be invited. Or have time for it. I am only talking about having somebody to chat during the games and dinners/weekend lunches we organize for the girls. I will exchange pleasantries. The reason this even became an "issue" is that my super social DD is trying to "set" me up to be friends with other moms!

[Anonymous]

We will be in our mid-40s when our child goes to college, but of my three immediate neighbors with children, two of them are in their 50s with kids still in early elementary.

[Anonymous]

I'm an almost-60 mom with kids ranging from 13 to 30s. I think it's normal around here to skew a bit older. I get weird looks and questions, as if having my first at 25, after college, after marriage, was equivalent to being a teen mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:39 with a 16yo and a 14yo

And I get judged all the time. I swear I almost need to wear a sign that says yes, I graduated from a 4 year college, then got married, then had kids (we found out we were pregnant with our first about 6 months after we got married).

I started about 2 years after you but I feel similarly. I feel like some people see me as a teen mom - and I was 26 when I had my kid! When my child was a toddler people in NW would ask me if I was a nanny...to a kid who looked just like me! I had a graduate degree and was an Assistant Professor, FFS! It doesn't help that at our elementary school the parental age skews much older.

[Anonymous]

Had DC1 at 38 and DC2 at 40.

I AM SO TIRED!!!! And so loved. And happy.

No one looks at me, they look at the children. Breathtaking and worth every moment of weariness.

Off to make pancakes now, when all I want to do is sleep!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:49 with a seven year old and a five year old. Look younger than I am, but won't last forever. Kids in private school and I notice the parent demographic skews a bit older there. Don't care that I'm old as I'm just so damn grateful that I get to be a parent.

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[Anonymous]

I am 55 and DH is 57. We have a 14 and 12 year old. I am ususally the oldest mom in the room, but I don't care!

[Anonymous]

Geezer breeders are disgusting. Nothing screams irresponsibility and selfishness like having a kid after 40.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Geezer breeders are disgusting. Nothing screams irresponsibility and selfishness like having a kid after 40.

I'm a geezer adopter. Guess I should have left that kid in the cocaine den, right?

[Anonymous]

I am 53and DH is 50. Kids are 12 and 13. So I will be 60 when the kids are leaving for college. Many of my peers are empty nesters. But I have other friends who are close to my age with young children as well.

[Anonymous]

I'm 52 with a 15 year old and 10 year old, so I'll be 60 when the youngest graduates. I feel like the oldest most of the time.