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[Anonymous]

Wow. I can only assume that all the hostility to Pollyanna reflects the high levels of anxiety that everyone is feeling on this issue, because she's been nothing but polite in sharing her experiences. (I suppose if this level of anxiety is making people rude to their own families it's not surprising that it's making them rude to strangers on an anonymous basis. It is disappointing, though.) Whether or not you personally find her sharing her experience helpful or interesting - and I do - I think all the accusations and snide remarks are really out of place and reflect poorly on the commenters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Pollyanna, you're strange. Why you felt the need to edit (at 11:24) your original post (the one at 11:14) after I responded to your question (at 11:21) about whether we applied to WIS and St. Stephens suggest that you indeed are the child versus an adult. Posting my experience did not call into question your experience, nor did it call you a liar, nor did it imply that you should defend yourself. You really need to move on. By now, everyone on the east coast has heard about your DS, your educational consultant, your chanel suit, etc. Many on this board will not have the same experience (i.e., getting admitted to 6 schools, getting early letters or telephone calls, etc). While I'm sure (not really) that you mean to be helpful, you are fueling some of the anxiety that parents on this board already feel.

I think attacking Pollyanna in this way is unfair. While some may not see eye-to-eye with her regarding the school application process (including me), I think it's disrespectful to accuse her of purposely trying to be unhelpful. I've seen a number of messages in recent days or weeks that have attacked her or accused her of being fictional. If you don't believe her, that's fine. I don't feel the same way that she does about schools and the like (for example, I didn't use an educational consultant, nor am I fond of Beauvoir), but she has contributed greatly to the discussions in this forum, perhaps more so than any other member. It now looks like she is withdrawing herself from this forum (she has now deleted a number of her earlier posts). This is quite unfortunate. If she decides to refrain from contributing, it is our loss, not hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Pollyanna, you're strange. Why you felt the need to edit (at 11:24) your original post (the one at 11:14) after I responded to your question (at 11:21) about whether we applied to WIS and St. Stephens suggest that you indeed are the child versus an adult. Posting my experience did not call into question your experience, nor did it call you a liar, nor did it imply that you should defend yourself. You really need to move on. By now, everyone on the east coast has heard about your DS, your educational consultant, your chanel suit, etc. Many on this board will not have the same experience (i.e., getting admitted to 6 schools, getting early letters or telephone calls, etc). While I'm sure (not really) that you mean to be helpful, you are fueling some of the anxiety that parents on this board already feel.

I think attacking Pollyanna in this way is unfair. While some may not see eye-to-eye with her regarding the school application process (including me), I think it's disrespectful to accuse her of purposely trying to be unhelpful. I've seen a number of messages in recent days or weeks that have attacked her or accused her of being fictional. If you don't believe her, that's fine. I don't feel the same way that she does about schools and the like (for example, I didn't use an educational consultant, nor am I fond of Beauvoir), but she has contributed greatly to the discussions in this forum, perhaps more so than any other member. It now looks like she is withdrawing herself from this forum (she has now deleted a number of her earlier posts). This is quite unfortunate. If she decides to refrain from contributing, it is our loss, not hers.

Pollyanna was the individual who attacked because someone (who, by the way, didn't disagree with her or accuse her of anything) posted a different experience. I personally hope that she refrains from posting anything more. I don't find that her situation is at all an indication of what others' situations have been or will be. It is definitely not the "norm" but rather the exception. Exceptions provide no added value, as they present false expections for those who are trying to navigate the process for the first time. To continue posting about her admissions process success (over and over and over again) is annoying. She hasn't said anything new since her very first set of posts, and definitely nothing earth-shattering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: It now looks like she is withdrawing herself from this forum (she has now deleted a number of her earlier posts).

How child-like is that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Pollyanna was the individual who attacked because someone (who, by the way, didn't disagree with her or accuse her of anything) posted a different experience. I personally hope that she refrains from posting anything more. I don't find that her situation is at all an indication of what others' situations have been or will be. It is definitely not the "norm" but rather the exception. Exceptions provide no added value, as they present false expections for those who are trying to navigate the process for the first time. To continue posting about her admissions process success (over and over and over again) is annoying. She hasn't said anything new since her very first set of posts, and definitely nothing earth-shattering.

With everyone (except for Pollyanna) posting anonymously, this is all pretty confusing as to who is saying what, but I think I'd be pretty pissed off if someone said this about me:

Anonymous wrote:
Seriously folks, Pollyanna is part truth and part fantasy. Don't take her posts too seriously. Don't wait by the phone because schools are not going to call you unless their yield is so low they need to make you feel wanted and important. Come on now, do you really think Beauvoir is going to make 82 + phone calls. I don't think so. Pollyanna, stop bs-ing everyone--your kid did not get into ALL six schools including Sidwell.

That's an attack. And it's just one of the many that have been lobbied at her in recent weeks.

[Anonymous]

And here I thought this was all about the Texas and Ohio primaries!

[Anonymous]

You are all crazy!!!! Almost 1,000 views on this topic!!! I did not get this freaked out when I applied to law school and in that case there was more at stake. Do you really think that a negative decisison on your 4 and 5 yos will have any impact on their lives. Does it matter whether the letter comes on Friday or Saturday, does it matter if you get a call before. Even if the decision is a no, will your child fall over and die, will it get hungry, will it get sick, No!!!! You all need to find something better to do with your time maybe if you are otherwise occupied you will not have time to worry about this very minor issue.


The lot of you make we want to seriously consider public school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The majority of schools send out letters on March 7th. Anyone out there stressed out? I certainly am.

Any helpful words from parents who have been through this? I stress myself out thinking what if DD gets rejected across the board or is the proper term "shut out".

Someone told recently that the worst thing that can happen is we are on waitlist status because then the wait drags on. Is that true? If you got off such a list which school and how long before you got a call?

i can't believe all of these posts about this! don't you people have other things to do and to consume your time? seriously! other children? playdates? dishes? i am so busy that sure i like to come on here when i have a break or kids are napping or in school or something but this seems over the top to me! it is out of your hands now...just sit back and wait. i mean these are really not going to make or break your child's life. seriously..now wondering about the size of the letter? the call or the not call? come on! you need to dig deep in yourselves and ask "why am i obsessing about this so much?" there is more to it than you just wanting your kid to go to a good school. find the answer and work on it. there is a fear or something there....maybe questioning your parenting (which you should not). don't question yourself or your kid. it is part the luck of the draw, part connections, part just a really good fit, and part who knows what else. there are always other options. always. find your identity people aside from these things. you need to be able to be stranded on an island with just yourself and without all of these material things and status symbols and still feel good. it is just a school. your kid is a kid and will do well most anywhere. be calm and use this as a good lesson in having faith and in finding out that these things won't change who you are or who your children are. know who you are in your heart and who your family is and your kid and don't confuse the two. and as someone else said, you can always reapply and reapply. i haven't thought twice about this since i attended our last playdate. it is out of my hands now. for your own sanity, i'd do the same if i were you.

[Anonymous]

Amen, sister! I could not agree more. I check this site for a little break at times, but the folks posting on this one seem nuts to me (not all but the obsessing ones). Let's wish the best for each other and just chill. Think back to your own experiences. I went to public school, my best friends went to a mix, but we are all happy, sane, educated, people. There is a life out there separate from where you go to school!