Would it bother you if your child's teacher said this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

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Y'all are nuts to attack a male teacher about this. And leggings/tights are not pants.

UNDER A DRESS? You are out of your ever loving mind.

What are you supposed to wear under a dress? Pants under a dress? What planet are you from?

Whether you're wearing leggings, tights, or nothing under a dress, you shouldn't sit cross-legged. You know this, you've just lost track of that knowledge somewhere.

I don't. Elementary school children do. All the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

What I think is inappropriate is teachers (of any gender) making rules about how seven-year-old girls wearing dresses should sit, lest people think thoughts about what's under their dresses.

You are right, it is far more appropriate for your daughter to show her panties to everyone in the room. God forbid she be corrected! I'm sure no one will notice and she has every right to flash the other kids and teacher! My God, people here are so stupid.

Again, READ THE ORIGINAL POST, the child was wearing leggings under the dress. NO PANTIES WERE EXPOSED.

Goodness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And in another thread, people are arguing that girls aren't socialized to be calmer, they just ARE calmer. Here's great evidence - girls, we'll socialize you to sit JUST SO, and be lady like. Boys, go ahead and sit however you darn well please, you're boys!

Twenty month old babies are not socialized to be calmer. That's nature.

Telling a girl that she should wear a dress to school and then be offended when she is told not to sit criss-cross is nurture. Or lack thereof. (The boys are not allowed to sit however they darn well please. They are supposed to sit criss-cross, just like the girls are. The ones who sit however they darn well please are on red or in the principal's office.)

Well, no, NOT criss-cross just like the girls are. If it actually were "criss-cross, just like the girls are", there wouldn't be a thread about this.

[Anonymous]

OMG. I work at a daycare center with preschoolers. When they sit with dresses on, legs open, you can see EVERYTHING. The underwear is usually loose and you can see everything through the sides. I would not mind that he told the girls this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

+100

Y'all are nuts to attack a male teacher about this. And leggings/tights are not pants.

UNDER A DRESS? You are out of your ever loving mind.

What are you supposed to wear under a dress? Pants under a dress? What planet are you from?

Whether you're wearing leggings, tights, or nothing under a dress, you shouldn't sit cross-legged. You know this, you've just lost track of that knowledge somewhere.

Seriously? Do you have children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

+100

Y'all are nuts to attack a male teacher about this. And leggings/tights are not pants.

UNDER A DRESS? You are out of your ever loving mind.

What are you supposed to wear under a dress? Pants under a dress? What planet are you from?

Whether you're wearing leggings, tights, or nothing under a dress, you shouldn't sit cross-legged. You know this, you've just lost track of that knowledge somewhere.

I don't. Elementary school children do. All the time.

They probably do. And since 99.9% of their elementary teachers are women, you don't care. Now imagine that the teacher is male. Suddenly it's no longer okay. Suddenly parents (not OP, perhaps, but other parents) care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

+100

Y'all are nuts to attack a male teacher about this. And leggings/tights are not pants.

UNDER A DRESS? You are out of your ever loving mind.

What are you supposed to wear under a dress? Pants under a dress? What planet are you from?

Whether you're wearing leggings, tights, or nothing under a dress, you shouldn't sit cross-legged. You know this, you've just lost track of that knowledge somewhere.

I don't. Elementary school children do. All the time.

They probably do. And since 99.9% of their elementary teachers are women, you don't care. Now imagine that the teacher is male. Suddenly it's no longer okay. Suddenly parents (not OP, perhaps, but other parents) care.

Disagree. My 2nd grader has had mostly male teachers, so I really don't care as long as you teach her something. I do not want you teaching her about gender roles unless you specifically have a background in gender studies. Does this teacher have a background in that field?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

What I think is inappropriate is teachers (of any gender) making rules about how seven-year-old girls wearing dresses should sit, lest people think thoughts about what's under their dresses.

You are right, it is far more appropriate for your daughter to show her panties to everyone in the room. God forbid she be corrected! I'm sure no one will notice and she has every right to flash the other kids and teacher! My God, people here are so stupid.

Again, READ THE ORIGINAL POST, the child was wearing leggings under the dress. NO PANTIES WERE EXPOSED.

Goodness.

It doesn't really matter about leggings/no leggongs. It is too complex to enforce Larla is wearing leggings so she can sit on the floor, but Larlita is not wearing leggings so she can't. Both Larla and Larlita are wearing dresses and must sit in chair is easier to explain to children. Some of you will take offense at anything. how do manage to function at this level of outrage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

What I think is inappropriate is teachers (of any gender) making rules about how seven-year-old girls wearing dresses should sit, lest people think thoughts about what's under their dresses.

You are right, it is far more appropriate for your daughter to show her panties to everyone in the room. God forbid she be corrected! I'm sure no one will notice and she has every right to flash the other kids and teacher! My God, people here are so stupid.

Again, READ THE ORIGINAL POST, the child was wearing leggings under the dress. NO PANTIES WERE EXPOSED.

Goodness.

It doesn't really matter about leggings/no leggongs. It is too complex to enforce Larla is wearing leggings so she can sit on the floor, but Larlita is not wearing leggings so she can't. Both Larla and Larlita are wearing dresses and must sit in chair is easier to explain to children. Some of you will take offense at anything. how do manage to function at this level of outrage?

So girls can't sit on the carpet during circle time wearing dresses? You literally are saying that you are ok with this.

I'm just wondering who you are? Michelle Duggar? Amish? What kind of backwards ass person is ok with this gender bullshit. PLEASE tell me you are not the parents of girls.

[Anonymous]

I'm of the opinion that the school should be taking the burden off the teacher in this case. For young children who are playing a lot of the day, active on the floor, etc., the school's dress code should account for that: skirts and dresses are permitted as long as the kid wears shorts/leggings/tights underneath. Done and done.

I have this argument with my DD every day. She loves dresses and loves climbing trees/doing cartwheels/rolling in the grass. She doesn't want to wear anything under her dresses and skirts. I don't care if I see her undies around the house, but I think she needs to dress appropriately for school so she can continue to be a rough and tumble kid without flashing her underpants or worrying about being singled out in a case like this. Dress your kids appropriately for the situation and no one has to worry about policing anyone's garments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

What I think is inappropriate is teachers (of any gender) making rules about how seven-year-old girls wearing dresses should sit, lest people think thoughts about what's under their dresses.

You are right, it is far more appropriate for your daughter to show her panties to everyone in the room. God forbid she be corrected! I'm sure no one will notice and she has every right to flash the other kids and teacher! My God, people here are so stupid.

Again, READ THE ORIGINAL POST, the child was wearing leggings under the dress. NO PANTIES WERE EXPOSED.

Goodness.

It doesn't really matter about leggings/no leggongs. It is too complex to enforce Larla is wearing leggings so she can sit on the floor, but Larlita is not wearing leggings so she can't. Both Larla and Larlita are wearing dresses and must sit in chair is easier to explain to children. Some of you will take offense at anything. how do manage to function at this level of outrage?

If you're that confused, the simpler explanation is no one sits on the floor, then. Letting boys be comfortable and enforcing "ladylike" behavior on girls, because .... it's too difficult to explain underwear to kids? Again, this is BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

What I think is inappropriate is teachers (of any gender) making rules about how seven-year-old girls wearing dresses should sit, lest people think thoughts about what's under their dresses.

You are right, it is far more appropriate for your daughter to show her panties to everyone in the room. God forbid she be corrected! I'm sure no one will notice and she has every right to flash the other kids and teacher! My God, people here are so stupid.

Again, READ THE ORIGINAL POST, the child was wearing leggings under the dress. NO PANTIES WERE EXPOSED.

Goodness.

It doesn't really matter about leggings/no leggongs. It is too complex to enforce Larla is wearing leggings so she can sit on the floor, but Larlita is not wearing leggings so she can't. Both Larla and Larlita are wearing dresses and must sit in chair is easier to explain to children. Some of you will take offense at anything. how do manage to function at this level of outrage?

If you're that confused, the simpler explanation is no one sits on the floor, then. Letting boys be comfortable and enforcing "ladylike" behavior on girls, because .... it's too difficult to explain underwear to kids? Again, this is BS.

When was the last time you sat on a floor? The chair is by far more comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm of the opinion that the school should be taking the burden off the teacher in this case. For young children who are playing a lot of the day, active on the floor, etc., the school's dress code should account for that: skirts and dresses are permitted as long as the kid wears shorts/leggings/tights underneath. Done and done.

I have this argument with my DD every day. She loves dresses and loves climbing trees/doing cartwheels/rolling in the grass. She doesn't want to wear anything under her dresses and skirts. I don't care if I see her undies around the house, but I think she needs to dress appropriately for school so she can continue to be a rough and tumble kid without flashing her underpants or worrying about being singled out in a case like this. Dress your kids appropriately for the situation and no one has to worry about policing anyone's garments.

My 6yo is similar--cartwheels, does the splits, etc. I've always put her in "tumble shorts" or leggings under skirts/dresses, or she wears skorts with built-in shorts underneath (Hanna Anderson has a lot of these).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother used to teach elementary school. He quit because of stupid shit like this. If your kid in a dress is trying to sit cross-legged, then thank goodness someone is saying something to her or him. That's extremely inappropriate.

Tights are a kind of undergarment outside the gym IMO and you shouldn't sit cross legged in them unless you are at yoga class.

What I think is inappropriate is teachers (of any gender) making rules about how seven-year-old girls wearing dresses should sit, lest people think thoughts about what's under their dresses.

You are right, it is far more appropriate for your daughter to show her panties to everyone in the room. God forbid she be corrected! I'm sure no one will notice and she has every right to flash the other kids and teacher! My God, people here are so stupid.

Again, READ THE ORIGINAL POST, the child was wearing leggings under the dress. NO PANTIES WERE EXPOSED.

Goodness.

It doesn't really matter about leggings/no leggongs. It is too complex to enforce Larla is wearing leggings so she can sit on the floor, but Larlita is not wearing leggings so she can't. Both Larla and Larlita are wearing dresses and must sit in chair is easier to explain to children. Some of you will take offense at anything. how do manage to function at this level of outrage?

I was just thinking this. DCUM can be over the top but c'mon. This is not something to be outraged over. Annoyed? Maybe. Outraged? Not so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm of the opinion that the school should be taking the burden off the teacher in this case. For young children who are playing a lot of the day, active on the floor, etc., the school's dress code should account for that: skirts and dresses are permitted as long as the kid wears shorts/leggings/tights underneath. Done and done.

I have this argument with my DD every day. She loves dresses and loves climbing trees/doing cartwheels/rolling in the grass. She doesn't want to wear anything under her dresses and skirts. I don't care if I see her undies around the house, but I think she needs to dress appropriately for school so she can continue to be a rough and tumble kid without flashing her underpants or worrying about being singled out in a case like this. Dress your kids appropriately for the situation and no one has to worry about policing anyone's garments.

My 6yo is similar--cartwheels, does the splits, etc. I've always put her in "tumble shorts" or leggings under skirts/dresses, or she wears skorts with built-in shorts underneath (Hanna Anderson has a lot of these).

P.S. I'm annoyed by the teacher's "like a lady" comment. Why can he just say if your underwear will show, sit in a chair, and leave gender out of it? Not sure if I'd raise hell about it, but I'd be annoyed.